i wanna have child...but my wife not....i dont know how can i make her to believe that it would better to have a child....show the right way to me to talk.....
2007-01-31 22:24:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, too bad. Should have been born with a uterus. Your wife sounds like a smart lady. Pregnancy is something that is so physically traumatising only someone who is mentally unstable would agree to such a thing, especially given the fact that the world is over populated and there's really no need for most people to breed. Have you talked to your wife about adoption? She might be okay with that.
2007-01-31 22:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I know just how you feel. My ex wife wanted children right up until the moment we got married, then she decided that she didn't want children.
You have to make a really tough decision. What is more important to you ? Her? or children? If the answer is her, then sit down and talk about it. It might be that she isn't ready yet, or maybe that she is scared of either childbirth or that the child would add additional pressure to your marriage. If she isn't ready, then maybe find out what she needs to achieve before she is ready to have children, or what she needs from you.
If on the other hand children are more important to you than she is, then sadly you are on a downward slope. Although my marriage failed for many reasons (and there were a lot), children was one of the most regular arguments we had.
I believe that you may just need to give her time, or she may have things she wants to do before getting tied down at home. However, I wish you all the best and hope that you can get past this stumbling block.
2007-02-01 02:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by prophecyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are your reasons for thinking that a child would make "it" better ? did you know before you married her she didn't want children ? why doesn't she want children ? sit down and have a honest talk with your wife, state your reasons for thinking a child will be better than not having one ..there's no easy way to convince a woman to have a baby if she really has no desire to have one ...if she told you her feelings before you were married ..well you should have listened and accepted this
2007-01-31 22:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect her wishes for now. its very rough being pregnant and a very big responsibility that she just does not seem ready for at this moment. If you try and force it on her and you do have a baby then she'll be resentful towards you or worse the baby as well. just give her some time and she too will want a baby. I know this is not what you want to hear but its the truth.
2007-01-31 22:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to agree to it there is alot to having a baby, Babies wake up during the middle of the night, they have to be fed their diaper changed, and they need constant care, your wife may not be ready for the resposibility so don't push her into it, she would really be mad if she had one and you failed to help with the care. It takes alot of work to be parents and raise kids.
2007-01-31 22:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force her to do it! But sit her down and talk to her about your desires to have a family. But having a child is a great strain on a relationship...
2007-01-31 22:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and talk to her about it its not easy there is alot more to haveing a baby other then makeing one maybe she wants to wait for a while because she wants to be sure she wants to live life for awhile and save money so when and if you both do agree to have a baby you all wont be so stressed out over money
2007-01-31 22:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right way to bring that up right now she is very adament about not having one and no amount of talking about it will change her mind. i say just ot give it time and if she doesnt change her mind then you will have to face some tough decions in which yu should have found that out before marrying.
2007-01-31 22:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked about children before you married her then you would have known if you should marry her or not.Now it si too late keep on trying .Maybe keep on inviting friends with chldren so that she gets used to seeing children.
2007-01-31 22:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear my friend
you can talk tohet and tellher that it make your love to her stronger than it and more stable ....by...by
2007-01-31 23:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by mehmet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋