i know one guy from past 3 years. We love eachother and planned to get married. His parents are ready for our marriage, but my parents had some problem as it'll be inter-caste marriage. But now they are agree but want that first i should finish my MBA which will finish by the end of this year. Currently i am working and now 24 year old. By boyfriend want to get marry earlier.... My father has some BP problem, i cannot discuss this matter at this point of time to him...
Some freinds,cusions of my boyfreind misguiding him that he will not get any financial support or my parents support after marriage and also our marriage will create problem to my parents... Now he is thinking that we should not get marry because of my parents... and i don't know for what else... butwe both love eachother and i want to marry him. I will not get marry anyone else . Please advise how do i make him understand that everything will be all right. Just think positive.
GUYS!!! need your help here...
2007-01-31 22:11:19 · 12 answers · asked by neha j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not many guys here in India have a chance to marry the girl they love because not many girls fall in love for one reason or the other. Ask any guy whether he loved any girl, he would say yes unless he is abnormal or has purpose. And a guy shows all the patience, tact, and manupulation till he is sure that the girl is his. Then he tells her to realise what is her true place which is till then on the high pedestal is brought down to the level of any disgruntled indian housewife toiling silently. We all know them as we see them everyday in the form of a mother or a sister or a wife but never touch the pulse of their grieving heart.
In your case, the pedestal is already gone and now the ground beneath your feet is being eroded. Wake up now or you may regret later. A guy who is so conditional even before your marriage will certainly dictate terms to you after it. Stand your ground, never compromise your career options. Both of you better have an open talk as to what you want to do with your lives.
Never allow any relations or friends influence your opinions. If he loves you so much, ask him to assume the role of a husband from now , take care of you and love you but do not let him attach any strings to you in the form of dowry or parents or friends. Be bold, your world is not the only world, there are many if you care to look outside.
2007-02-01 06:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by havah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is the rush to marry? get married after you receive your MBA at the end of the year. Have employment and some $$$ saved before you marry. Financially you should put the marriage idea on the back burner until you've accomplished your educational goals and planted yourself in a new career.
You should'nt have to expect financial support after you graduate---
You mention this is an intra-racial relationship---You really need to think long and hard about this ----Sometimes Loving a person isn't enough if it causes a breach between your parents and family. Step back and evaluate every aspect weighing the positives and the negatives.
What is the boyfriends rush to alter all about---take a look at that as well.
2007-01-31 22:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and marry ure bf first. then persue ure MBA side by side. dear in todays world everyone is so stressed that we are bound to get problems like bp and all. i myself suffer from that due to my work life at the age of 30. so dont worry. all can happen after marriage. but at the same time if ure love is strong then ure BF should not be getting bothered by things his freinds and cousins have to say.
2007-02-01 03:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are confused and even cant identify your problem properly. You first list out your preferences
(i) Your degree
(ii) Your parents
(iii) Your love, and last but not the least
(iv) Your marriage
Give weightage to each of them and then decide what to do. You must understand that the jam you are in cannot be sorted out without some sacrifice. My advice is sacrifice some of your impulses and decide logically.
2007-02-03 17:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Babul D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to rain on your parade, but it seems to me he does not love you as much. He is worrying about his dowry. If you look fairly good, as many indian girls do, you need not worry of finding the right guy...chances are he'll find you. Finish your schooling then find that guy or leave India, go overseas...where people cares not for either caste or dowry. As starter, keep improving your english...I think you'll do very well.
Life is an adventure...you're embarking in one. Good luck!
2007-02-01 00:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents are right, you should first finish your MBA before getting yourself into marriage. Becoz once you get carried away with marriage you might not be able to finish your course, and first get yourself self established. if your boyfriend really loves you he will wait for you and not rush you into everything.
2007-01-31 22:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 06:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by fechter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both sit together with some of your friends and discuss these problems. so that they can help you abt the problems and all.
i don't know how was the relation between you.
you r not a kid so just sit together and solve the problem.\
you can easily solve these type of problems if you both r in love with each other.
good luck.
bye
2007-01-31 22:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by jagan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be rude,but you may want to read your question out loud.... it is very choppy and confusing to most.
First and foremost you need to get marriage counseling together. You need someone from the outside to help you with this.
2007-01-31 22:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your bf, talk to your parents. Get engaged to him for now. Marry after yoiur MBA. Simple!!!
:-)
2007-02-01 08:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋