my husband spent 900 dollars?

Question

i found out today that my husband used his credit card to buy 900 dollars worth of beer to get drunk and food. i had no idea this whole time and thought he was serious when he said he wanted to save to buy a house (we are renting a little place and we have a son). i'm furious. he said he won't spend anymore and will pay off the card. he has stopped drinking and ripped his credit card. he is not acting like everything is back to normal, like it never happened. does this mean it's out of his system. will there be other things he'll do to get out of his system? what should i do?

Answer 1

The question I would be asking is WHY? Why did he feel the need to do this.?
If a guy spends that amount on booze and gets drunk it suggests that he is unhappy with life and where he's at.
If you're on a tight budget and saving for a home purchase it may be that all your available cash has been going into the piggy bank and life has been one long episode of drudge.That may not bother you or indeed many others when the objective of getting your own home is so (rightly) important.But for him it may have been too much of a straightjacket for too long and he just wanted to cut free for a bit.
To be honest hun you need to ask him.Sit down and talk to him as to how he feels.If his story is along the lines that I've suggested then you need to find a compromise.Maybe agree to go out together once a month for an inexpensive meal and a bottle of plonk whilst still concentrating on the savings.

Answer 2

$900 on beer and food. that's a whole h e l l of lot of food and beer. where were you when the beer and food were being consumed? I don't know of a frig on this earth that could hold $900 worth of beer----Maybe a couple of 24 packs but not $900 worth.

You have a man that is compulsive and immature. You say he has cut up the cards and going to pay off the $900. Let see....interest will eat you up if this $900 isn't paid in 30 days of receipt. If you think that by paying the minimum $15 a month will cut it it won't ...It'll take you 3 -4 years to pay that $900 off.

make sure you don't share joint credit with this person----who knows next he'll hawk the car title off at one of those title loan companies!!!

Answer 3

He has a problem. The only thing that may actually get him to wake up to himself once and for all is if you take your child and leave him. He is an alcoholic. No normal person needs a secret credit card to buy beer. Although he's said he will stop, how do you know he won;t just be more devious and hide it better next time? And how many times are you willing for there to be? It gets harder the longer you put up with a situation like this.

Answer 4

Whoa thats a WHOLE lot of beer and food. Let's think deeper. Is there a reason that he succumbed to that much spending? Is he bored, unhappy, depressed? It seems that he might understand what he did is wrong since he has since stopped drinking and got rid of the credit card. Could this be a flukey thing? Has he done anything like it before? If not, I would give him the chance to prove himself. Either way, try to determine what the real cause of that situation was, and how to address that. Good Luck!

Answer 5

900 dollars on beer and food---at one time----or did you add it all up from different purchases? If it's a one time bill it's unrealistic unless he catered a party with at least 100 guests or more. I'd be suspicious about this regardless. Look at the vendors names and see where he was spending this money. Also there's the Fanny Foundation and other like companies who will finance you for a home purchase if you have decent credit. Even the government has homeowner grants.

Answer 6

Haha, over how long a period of time? If it took him a short while to spend that much on beer and food, you haven't noticed your husbands drinking problem?? Do you live like an ostrich with your head in the sand?

Well, if he's not drinking anymore and isn't spending any more and understands why he can't do these sorts of things, I think you can just drop it. If it happens again, take it from there.

Answer 7

Well I would recommend putting a nest egg away for yourself and your son. Though this may never happen again, you should always have a plan B. 900.00 isn't the problem, the problem is your lines of communication are not flowing and the trust is gone. Try to work it out because money can come and go.... But think ahead and plan for the worse just in case. If you are not working, I would think about getting a part time job even if it is from home.

Answer 8

you're saying you're making adequate funds, so there's no reason in the back of a pair married 3 years to be asking their mom and dad for funds on a month-to-month foundation. circulate via each and all the ATM withdraws and quotes this final month and admit how lots of it grew to become into 'residing previous your skill'. when you spot you won't be able to do the on a regular basis lunches out at $10.00 each and each an afternoon, movies and paying for of 'toys' . . . . then decrease up the enjoying cards and circulate on a funds only foundation. Pay all your costs and artwork out how lots you ought to spend for foodstuff and entertainment. See what that's want to fairly stay on the money you're making and spot how lots you waste.

Answer 9

Sounds like he want to a strip joint or a casino. Food and beer does not cost that much. Prepare to divorce him but not until he pays back. Make him go to work.

Answer 10

You need to get off of his a s s. People blow off steam in different ways.

I would like to say coo dos to your husband. $900! That's going out for a beer!