and I live in the UK. We were together 2years and we split up mostly because of the distance. My family think we're just friends, and though they've met her, they'd never think we are together (I am also a girl). Ive never been with a girl before, but I have just fallen completely in love with her. I can imagine us growing old together. I just want to be with her. The problem comes now that we've both admitted we are miserable without each other. She has asked me to move to Canada and ive said yes. Im planning to move permanantly in 2 months, and have my visa. The thing is now its getting closer and my girlfriend and I are excited about our future im so worried about leaving my family. They'll be so upset Im off 2Canada. And they'd completely disown me if I told them I was with her, as her girlfriend. They've made it clear how they stand on that point. It disgusts them. I really want to go to Canada and be happy. But I love my family, I hate lying, and letting them down!!
2007-01-31 20:59:00 · 12 answers · asked by Sophie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are what you are, as a mother all I want is my children to be happy and loved, if that is with someone of the same sex, that is there perogative, no one has the right to dictate who another person can love, love doesnt work like that.
Go to Canada and be happy, don't tell your family why you are going to Canada, you will just end up leaving on bad terms and have bad memorys of the last time you were with your family, its not as if they are going to see you or bump into you, this will give you a chance to settle in with your partner without all the bitterness from your family.
You are not letting them down, it is their hang ups not yours, and your not lying, your just not telling them, going and settling in first will give you time to go through things with your partner and build a strong relationship that will withstand the negative stuff from your family when they do find out.
Hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-01 18:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Canada and see how it works out with this girl. Tell your family you want a new start and are going to stay with your friend. You dont have to tell them anything at this stage about your relationship, just say you are friends. If a year down the line you are sure about her then you could break it gently to your parents. I think you need to go there to see if it will work without upsetting them. I know you will miss your family but you need to think about your own happiness, Good Luck!
PS You say permanently but you can always come back
2007-01-31 21:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to your family that you love her very much, and that she is the only thing that is making you happy. even though your family are making you happy to. you can always visit your family, have them down for holidays and have some fun. so what is shes a girl? i have a boy friend. and i love him so much, if i had to move with him, id feel bad but id tell my family that i want to do this, and its what ive decided. if you love your partner very much, then you will know how it feels. you could try just going to canada for a week or two, like a holiday, and see how it works out.
good luck x
2007-01-31 21:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by emmaness123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its alright to feel like that, your not the only one. but you dont grow up to stay with your family for the rest of your life. your supose to meet someone and move out n stuff and if you found someone boy or girl it dont matter, yes i think you should go. you might not think it because your parents are so against it but they will come around over time, once they realize that your serious and it is what you want . and if you do go and it dont work, it was still an experience.
2007-01-31 21:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by mr meat puppet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart!!Your family love you,im sure once they have had time to get their heads around it they will be behind you!!Of course it will be a shock for them but you will be surprised how supportive they will be!! Go for it,and if it doesnt work out at least you can say youv tried!!There is nothing worse than always wondering What If!!! Good luck x
2007-01-31 21:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family won't give their blessing to your right to be happy then they are the ones with the problem. You aren't letting them down; they're letting you down by trying to subject you to a lifetime of guilt because of their small-minded bigotry. You're a long time dead! Live each day like it was your last. It could be.
2007-01-31 21:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would hate yourself more lying to yourself and denying yourself this chance. Tell your family you are going travelling see how it works out with this girl then tell them. In time they will come to accept who you are good luck xxx
2007-01-31 21:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and live your life
They do not have to know
2007-01-31 21:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Boscombe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and live your life. Forget her.
2007-01-31 21:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go, hopefully you'll get her and being a lesbian out of your system. I think its disgustng too.
2007-01-31 22:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by beautilicious88 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋