Do you think people should or should not get married?

Question

Well marriage is actually a formal union of 2 people typically recognized by law. But what is the future of human relationship?
In our times, People are getting married because they want to feel financially secure. Divorces increase, marriages last only for months or for a few years. Ofcourse there are some exeptions of loving and balanced long relationships but as years go by, there are becoming extinct.

Answer 1

I think thats a rose tinted view of the old days! People often used to get married because its what society expected of them.
Single older women were often treated with contempt. They were called 'spinster', it has a different meaning to 'bachelor'. They were described as having been 'left on the shelf'.
Divorce was only for the wealthy. People stayed together because they had to; and not all marriages werre happy.

Whatever choices people make now, at least we have the freedom of choice without being treated like outcasts. As long as people don't mess up their kids does it really matter to anyone else the reasons for their choices?
We might see two people as getting married for financial security, but we are outside the relationship and have no real idea of whats been discussed or decided, or how they feel. And why is that a less valid or long lasting reason then 'love'? If there is a mutual understanding and respect, whats so terrible about that? Better than starting in love and ending in contempt.
Let others do what they want with their lives, we should make our own choices!

Answer 2

People should marry if they want, not if they don't. But your idea that marriage is about romantic love is actually very western and very modern. Until quite recently most European marriages were based on financial and dynastic considerations, and in many parts of the world, they still are. In the UK, the aristocracy still marry for these reasons, and make separate arrangements for their private love lives. The clash of values between the Prince and Princess of Wales illustrates this - he assumed the traditional, dynastic hypoccritical arrangement his ancestors had taken for granted. She was Barbara Cartland's step granddaughter and expected 20th century romantic love.

What is new is the increase in divorce. Most divorces are instigated by women. Marriage for many women amounts to little more than housework, a full time job and child rearing, while their spouse sits around being waited on. For some reason they no longer find this an attractive way of life. I wonder why.

Answer 3

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We've lived together for nearly 4 years and been engaged for 2 years. I think that shows plenty of commitment and that we are serious about each other. But, our employers and the rest of the world don't see it like that and we are having to get married before we really wanted to just so that we will no longer be penalised for NOT being married. I think society needs to recognise long term, seriously committed un-marrieds so that people aren't forced into marriages, or civil partnerships, for financial security.

Answer 4

To make marriage is social obligation and an important biological need. However, it should be made sensibly and not for fun. Marriages made with sense of responsibility last long and result in balanced relationship of the two partners and also with other members. Making marriages also is necessary to eliminate sexual assualts/crimes from the society.

Answer 5

I think people should get married for the right reasons - that of love

There are too many people who get married out of conveinience and then regret it and feel they cant get out of it for financial pressures.

Although alot of people can keep there relationships going by sticking their heads in the sand and pretending they have the loving and balanced relationships you described.

There are many ways to stay married and make it "work" whether we would choose to live like that is not for us to judge

Answer 6

It has worked for the past 25 years for me and my wife, but also she was my next door neighbor and i have know here since she was 3 and i was the old boy of 5. And like most marriages we have our problems, but you tend to work things out. Bit of give and take goes a long way.

Answer 7

i grew to become into engaged whilst i grew to become into 24 and married whilst i grew to become into 26 Our wedding ceremony hues have been a dwindled peach and chocolate brown We each and every had our brothers as witnesses (2 finished), it grew to become right into a very small wedding ceremony (14 human beings have been there alongside with us and our reverend) Our reception grew to become into held a month after our wedding ceremony, and we did no longer have assigned seating, maximum folk did no longer sit down, it grew to become right into a dinner occasion We had a small chocolate cake and then a sort of cakes for human beings to p.c., i think of there have been 5 diverse possibilities We went to Maui for 2 weeks We have been given married in Gleneden coastline, OR, a tiny city on the coast, only outdoors of Lincoln city

Answer 8

Marriage is not for everyone, but if a couple has the same level of strong commitment, then I think that is wonderful. People do not take it seriously though - whether by law or not, any declaration of "til death" is admirable if upheld!

Answer 9

I think marriage can be a wonderful union between a couple. Its what most young girls dream of one day having the big white wedding and its a way of inviting your closest family and friends to a big party to celebrate your committment to one and another. Or you can just sneak off!!!! ;-)

Answer 10

people should get married if they are really in love and truly can see themselves with the other person in 50 or so years