I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now. We are very close and the thought of marriage has popped up a few times with family and ourselves. We do everything together. We live together and travel places.
The thing is, I want marrage, but not until I have traveled a bit and feel like settling down. We have been together since we were 16, but now I can travel I just want some freedom, before I tie myself down for life!
Should I suggest a short break for a few months to allow me to travel somewhere? I think I would feel alot better as soon as I have experienced things alone, and I would come back refreshed, and perhaps propose!
As much as I would like to travel with her, money, and her job is a restriction, and I feel if I had a month or 2 alone to travel, it would refresh our relationship, and the next stage could be possible.
I don't know what to do nor what to suggest to her. She may not take it too kindly and get the wrong idea... Any suggestions?
2007-01-31 19:55:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow....She will more than Likely take this wrong...it also seems u want to get out and experience some other things...which isn't wrong...But i wouldn't expect her to have welcome arms when Ur done traveling the world..She will probably wonder why u want a break if u just want to travel...So she might question your reason for a break...So I dont see why u need a break if ur just traveling...Now if your looking for an anything goes kinda trip then yes dont put her through that why your off having fun....Good Luck
2007-01-31 20:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you the same person now that you were at 16? probably not. it is entirely possible that you would like an opportunity to find your real adult self apart from your girlfriend.
this is not unlike leaving your parents, you are ready to leave the nest and try your wings.
i think you are using the "i just want a little break" because it is too difficult to tell your girl you are ready to move on to a new life.
just because you have spent 4 years with her is not a really good excuse to get married.
remember the adage, "if you love someone, let him go, if he flies away, he was never really yours to begin with."
go. and if you discover you love being away from her more than you love her, good thing you found out now.
tell her you love her and you have the opportunity to take a trip and go.
Oh, and take the advice of Tony1.
2007-01-31 20:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by july 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u need a break if ur relationship is good?? If u wanna go for a holiday on ur own...tell her..and make sure u make her understand that it's not cos u dun want her around or anything bad is gonna happen. Be truthful and direct..am sure if she loves u and gives u freedom...there ain't any problems at all, so why worry for something so simple?
2007-01-31 20:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A short break is fine. However, when you suggest it to her, you have to be very careful about the ground rules. Are you going to be faithful to her? Do you expect the same from her? Is this because of a problem in the relationship? Or just logistical? Be crystal clear with her and try hard not to hurt her feelings.
2007-01-31 20:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young. BE YOUNG! You have lots and lots of time to stay at home and do what some girl tells you to do...Don't do it too soon or you will always wonder what you missed.
2007-01-31 20:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no shes not stuid like i am not. you are not committed to her and you know it and now you are more with your money and want to spread your wings i say go and don't come back if i was her.
2007-02-04 12:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋