Im 17 and My guy is 20 I told him I might be pregnant and he told me ur getting an abortion and I said no, so he got mad and I asked him ur going to be there for us?and he said I dont know I immediately started to cry ,and I feel hopeless now someone please help I got kicked out of my house and I live with him what if he kick's me out where do I go? help?
2007-01-31 19:38:13 · 26 answers · asked by Smiley17 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You really should have thought about that before having sex.
But since you didn't you have a few options. Legally your parents can't kick you out because you are under 18. They can get in trouble with the police if you reported them so I'd go back to their house.
Your bf doesn't have any say in whether or not you have an abortion. If you think you are emotionally ready, financially secure and can raise this baby by yourself then go for it.
In the mean time, if you are pregnant, sign up for Medicaid and Wic. With these you will get free food and a 100% paid for pregnancy.
And your bf is an idiot, he WILL have to pay child support. To me it sounds like he's just scared and maybe he won't want to be involved but either way he still has to pay.
But what you should do first, stop wishful thinking that you are pregnant. If you really are go get a pregnancy test. I know you probably just told him this to get his reaction which was a really stupid move but hopefully in the future you'll learn from it and find a guy that will want to be with you regardless. This guy sounds like the next dead-beat dad
2007-02-01 04:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Whatever you do decide to do, let it be your own decision! Don't give the baby up or get an abortion just because you have doubts. You can always try raising it, and if you decide it's in best interest for you and your baby for it to be put up for adoption you can do that. Personally I would've rather had an abortion, than give my child up. But that's my decision. I'm not encouraging you in any direction, because I really think that should be up to you. I wouldn't listen to anybody on here. All you get is a bunch of opinions, and not all of the people on here are supportive. =[ But the fact is, you're pregnant. And if your boyfriend and parent's turned away, then there's other people out there who will support you. There's friends, and other family. And support groups for single mothers. You can do whatever you want to do, but make sure you make this decision on your own. Because if you let someone else tell you to do something different, you might regret later on. Trust me, when I got pregnant I wasn't quiet sure what to do either. I was in shock and denial at first. And plus with all the hormones, you can feel different from day to day. Like one day I wanted to keep it, but then I'd get scared or something and want to get an abortion. But just give yourself some time to think about it. And good luck =]
2016-05-24 01:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is always going to be your child but a man could just walk out of your life at anytime. Do NOT have an abortion just because he doesn't want a child. He knew the risk he was taking whenever he had sex with you. Don't try to just make him happy and give up your own happiness, if you want the baby then keep it. Because later on down the road if he does leave you for whatever reason you will regret getting the abortion and it will cause a lot of hatred towards him. Hope this helps and good luck!
2007-01-31 19:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope no matter what. If you do fell that you should not abort this child then don't. In may city's there are places where women can go to find options. Look in your phone book under abort clinks there are most of the time a listing there also for woman who are undecided. I would also call a Catholic church to see if there is a housing for unwed mothers in your area. Honey I hope you see this as a wake up call to the kind of man that you have given your love to and chose to leave him regardless if you are or are not pregnant. Life is hard and we all have to make hard choices. No one has to live with your chose then you so do what is right for you. Many hugs
2007-01-31 19:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you are going through some rough times right now. do not get an abortion. the child inside of you although not born is still a living human being and can feel pain. your boyfriend is the one who knocked you up and it is responsibility to step up, grow up and be a father. if he does not, then what you need to do is go after him for child support and don't feel bad about doing it either. i have a feeling from the response he gave you in the question you asked that he is going to join the long line of other deadbeat dads. this upsets me so much. my words to guys like this is if you cannot accept the consequences of being a parent then keep your d**k in your pants. after millions of years of man being on the earth, don't guys realize what causes pregnancy? obviously not but then again yes they do they just don't want to be a man. it is not macho or hip or anything of that nature but let me tell them this, it takes more of a man to be there for his family than it does to run away from them. they are strong words but they are true words. i believe your boyfriend falls into this category. if he kicks you out then go to a homeless shelter if you can't go home. a homeless shelter is not the safest place to be but certainly safer than being on the street. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-01 16:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off I would not have an abortion but it is your choice. Just dont do it for him. Im sure hes upset but he made the choice to risk it when he slept with you.
He is not a man. If he was a man he might get upset, then come back in a few minutes after saying that with...." Im sorry baby , I didnt mean it, Im just stressed out. What do we need to do to make sure our baby is healthy?
If he isnt sure.... He will not be there for you twords the end, or after for that matter.
Go to the local WIC office (women, infants, and children) Tell them you need a pregnancy test. If its positive, explain to them he will kick you out. They can get you signed up for emergency housing, and medical and food benifits.
Then get a friend that can drive you to and from dr. visits tword the end, and be there when you go into labor. Try to work and save the money so that you will have it when baby comes , or have the things you need for baby.
They will go after him for child support. No in MOST states its not rape. And her parents dont care.if she was 15 that would be , but not 17.
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-31 21:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THE HELL WITH THIS GUY, HE CAN GO TO JAIL.
YOU MUST DO WHAT U NEED TO DO, THINK THAT A LOT OF YOUNG WOMEN HAS GIVEN BIRTH CHILDREN WITH OUT A FATHER, BUT REMEMBER THAT IT'S NOT AN EASY RIDE, YOU WILL BE STRUGGLING ALONE FOR THE TWO OF YOU, IF YOU ABORT U ARE NOT GOING TO BE LESS WOMAN THAN ANOTHER, I THINK THAT U ARE THINKING ABOUT UR SELF AND THE BABY, IF YOU DECIDE TO HAVE IT I WISH U GOOD LOOK AND I HOPE THAT EVERY THING GET BETTER FOR U, BUT REMEMBER THAT IT'S NOT GOING TO BE EASY
2007-02-01 08:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by doom98999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is NOT statutory rape, for everybody's information. The partner may be 3 years younger. Anyway, he can't make you get an abortion. YOU have to sign the papers and YOU are carrying this baby. This baby is depending on you for life. It doesn't have any defense. If your boyfriend really did love you, he'd back you up on your decision and he will be PROUD to say that that child is his own!
2007-02-01 06:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are services through your county that can help you. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ABORT that is your choice. There's adoption and there's keeping it. those are your only other options. raising a child is a lifetime commitment but it can be a rewarding experiance. you need to decide what is right for you and your baby.ask yourself if you can handle the responasability? do you want this child?or do you want to adopt it out to a couple who can't have a child.in the end,it's your decidion. and only you can make it.
2007-01-31 19:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jesi P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is if you have an abortion you will regret it for the rest of your life. I had one and now have a child and not a day goes by that I dont think of what might have been. That guy is a piece of crap. there are programs for you and dont forget family and child support. Good luck. Beg your parents for foregiveness.
2007-01-31 19:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋