my kids told me she was going to their friends house and drinking with them and playing a game and she let this 18 yr old suck on her breast and then my kids found a letter from him to her saying how much fun they had in the back seat and behind his house, and to have as much fun as she can before i get out, then my daughters boyfriend told me that kid told him that my wife gave him a ********, well she denies everything, what can i do to get her to tell the truth, and keep us togather, we have been married 21 yrs, and now it is almost over, she even kisses differant and does other sexual things she never did before
2007-01-31 19:19:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) stay your ass out of prison.
2) if you think you deserve better, then leave...
2007-01-31 19:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by j_mang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put you in her shoes and see if it helps you get some perspective: You don't say how long you were away, but I'm assuming it was at least a year or else you'd have said "jail" instead of "prison." If she went away for that long and you were drinking one night and missing her, and then out of the blue, some sweet lil 18-yr-old gal came rolling up and asked you to clean her carburetor, would you resist temptation? Oh dude you know damn well you'd be all over it. Would this mean you don't love your wife? Of course not. Would you feel guilty about it? Probably at first, but it's not your fault she got locked up and left you with no outlet but your sad old fist. And it's not like you went wild and neglected your family or moved the hoochie into your bedroom. Just a thing that happened. Would you rush to tell her all about it when she came back to the world? Not a chance in hell! You'd re-invent your own universe into a place where that night never even happened, and you'd stick to your version even after your troublemaking loudmouth kids ratted you out to her. Would this mean you don't love her anymore? Would this mean your marriage has to end? Of course not, because you're married 21 yrs and you love her, and now that she's home, you can work together to rebuild an even better marriage than what you had before she knocked over that liquor store. And wouldn't it drive you friggin crazy when she just kept harping about it and trying to get you to tell her every detail? Wouldn't it be better for both of you just to live life looking forward?
Of course, this is all assuming some incident really occurred ... but back to your real world now, she swears to you nothing like this ever happened. Why do you choose to take some rotten kid's word over your wife's? Why don't you just accept her denial as the truth? Whether she did or didn't do it, the past will remain the past. And your sorryass wasn't around to do anything about it anyway, which is what you really feel guilty about, which is why you spend all day every day inventing raunchy mental porn pictures of your wife in all sorts of unspeakable acts with every kid in the trailer park. Why not stop punishing yourself like this and for pete's sake stop punishing her along with it? if you love her, then you should prove it by loving her enough to drop the whole matter completely. And if you can't drop it, hey, that's on you, but we all know a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.
In any event, the main thing I'd suggest is this: Stay the hell out of the pokey so you can give her the proper frequent manstick you owe her and save her from having to fool around with little punks who don't even know which end of it to aim. That's definitely your best bet if you want to live happily ever after.
2007-01-31 21:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Right 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer for you and you will not find the answers you seek on here. She forgave you for going to prison? maybe you should just let it go and continue trying to build something for the future. It might be that she didn't do anything, or don't want to hurt you with the truth.
Best of luck.
2007-02-01 15:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you were in the can for, but she was obviously lonely. That said, your wife really sounds like a s l u t and if it bothers you (some guys actually find being cuckolded a turn-on) you should dump her a s s.
2007-01-31 21:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The evidence is stacked against her and she's still lying! You know the truth, if she doesn't have the decency to be honest with you about it then she's not worth it. Cheating is cheating and is never acceptable!
2007-01-31 19:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. what for u went to prison first?
2007-01-31 21:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds sick to me. Is this Jerry Springer or what. Get a divorce.
2007-02-01 01:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you expect her to do while you were in prison getting "backdoored" by bull q_u_ee_r_s? Hmmmm?
2007-02-01 02:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um....Hello?Never mind the backseat!!She did WHAT in front of your kids?At THEIR friends house?Move on buddy.
2007-01-31 20:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well u werent there to look after her and your family at least she just had sex and didnt look for another guy to be with fulltime and she been taught sex isnt just missionary position
2007-02-01 00:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋