I told my bofreind that i think i might be pregnant, he very calmly said that "no matter what", he'd "be there" for me. - that was on sunday. I haven't heard from him at all since! What move should i make?- What am i supposed to think?
2007-01-31 19:15:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
"His palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy.../
He's nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready..." -- Eminem, "Lose Yourself"
Very often, upon hearing the words "I'm pregnant"-- even from a woman they've been with a long time-- most men experience a 'Hiroshima moment', where everything encompassed by the word "pregnant" hits their minds like a nuclear bomb. I know I went through it, and usually the best way to handle it is with empathy and understanding, as if he lost a loved one; he's probably quite happy to be a dad on one level, and grieving the "carefree single boy" he used to be on another. If your BF is as committed as he says, just give him some time to adapt; his emotions are probably going a mile a minute, largely centering around the gravity of you being pregnant, his role in it, and how he'll handle supporting you emotionally, psychologically, and financially. Rest assured, he knows it's a shock to you too-- after all, you're carrying another person now-- but once he has a chance to wrap his head around it, both of you can grow closer and get down to the business of preparing for the new addition.
2007-01-31 19:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by jrsydevl74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Get a hold of him and tell him that you are worried about how he dealing with it. Be open and honest about your thoughts and tell him it bothered you that he hasn't be in contact since you told him. He could be nervous and confused and trying to sort out his feelings about having a baby. I can't blame a guy for that, since I am in the same state of mind and I'm the one who is pregnent. Alot of thoughts go through your head, as I'm sure you know and he may have needed alittle time to sort through that. I do think that if he keeps avoiding you though that you should try not to focus so much on that, although it may be hard, but get support from your family and friends. No matter what he decides, you may be having a baby, and that is a wonderful thing that you can do with or without him. Congrats if you are. Hope all works out for you!
2007-01-31 21:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he is probably scared as well, Men sometimes need to take some time to digest things. If what he has said is true then you need to trust him. Ring him and see if he is ok, that may settle your mind a little bit. Be honest with him and ask him to be honest with how he is feeling. Men usually are not good at expressing themselves s so be patient and not pushy.
What ever the outcome things ALWAYS work out.
If you are not pregnant then take it as a wake up call and be more careful next time. If you both are to young or are not ready to have kids then make sure you are responsible and get some trustworthy contraception. Condoms only do not cut it.
2007-01-31 19:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what you should do... You should wait around and see if he calls you. Wait a little. Yes, it is nerve racking, but trust me I am going somewhere with this. You wait for him and then find out if you are pregant. IF you are... and he hasn't contacted you by the time you find out you call him and confoirm it and then tell him that you want him in your child's life, but you are breaking up with him. Yes you love him now, but what kind of MAN just doesn't contact you after something this big? Other people are saying he needs time for it to "soak in", but what about you? This is something you can'T just walk away from and you have to face it no matter what because you are the one with the child inside of you. You don'T need time for it to "soak in" and he doesn't deserve it either. That is the thing about boys... they walk away when ever they want, but for a girl you are basically stuck. Please don't hesitate to email me if you want any support.
2007-01-31 19:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is completely commonly used for a guy to look at porn, don't be scared. that is not any longer good or healthful, although that's the norm. adult men are adult men and as long as he's not married, it would nicely be cool. have self belief it or no longer, that is greater effectual to no longer have intercourse single provided that could be a sin.
2016-11-02 00:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is scared. Maybe he needs a little time to let reality soak in. Give him a call and tell him you need to talk. I hope he is man enough to stick around and give this child a father it will learn to grow up and love.
2007-01-31 19:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by ECNAV61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try calling him, its better than stressting out. you need to know for sure if is going to be there or not. guess he is still thinking about it. men take it different. even married men. so call him but at the same time give him time. if he says he is confused, try to understand that also.
good luck
2007-01-31 19:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just in shock and is taking some time to soak it all up. Give him time and don't be too hard on him.
2007-01-31 19:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to calm down and try calling him
2007-01-31 19:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by Smiley17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try callin him n get in touch wit him....Fast!!
2007-01-31 19:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by kariz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋