Is it crazy? Child getting in between relationship.?

Question

There is this girl who I met online. She talked to me on the phone and chatting. I am in the military and i used go home but she only sees me for a couple of hours and in the middle of nowhere. I pushed to get out in public but she says no. It took me awhile to even get a number. I broke up with her and starting seeing another girl after two months. She tells me that she is pregnant after I have been seeing this girl for a month. Now it is 2 years later. I have only seen one picture. I still keep in contact but only when she wants. she emails me and tells me stuff about my child. She still does not give away her number or an address. I have not even heard his voice because she says he is asleep or away. Really the only thing I have is a picture. It has been getting between my girlfriend of two years and I. I don't know what to do. I don't want to deny that childs existence, because that would be wishing him away, but I also don't know that he is really there. What do I do?

She changed her name and we are not talking anymore because she got mad that I pressured her for me to see the baby.

Answer 1

Don't get your hopes up with my answers because this is just something I'm wondering about and not something I am sure you could even do:

I wonder if you could get an attorney, tell him/her the situation, and ask if you could get a court order that would require the e.mail account people to give the attorney or a court her address.
From there you may be able to get an order for a paternity test of the child. Again, I don't even

I don't even know if this could be done, but its something to ask an attorney.

I don't know if a private investigator would know how to track her down through her e.mail, but that's another thought.

Have you tried just talking to her, asking her what she wants or doesn't want when it comes to any involvement on your part, etc.; and try to work something out?

Is there any chance she's a mental case, and for some reason she's made the whole story up? (Don't meet people on the Internet!! You never know.)

A couple of thoughts, though: If you are able to just assume you have a child somewhere that you won't know and need to move on, that wouldn't be "wishing the child away". That would be doing the only thing you may be able to do. Since you have not met the baby, you have the benefit of not loving him. As many, many, biological parents who have given up a child for adoption will tell you, it is possible to move on.

Unfortunately, one of the prices a person may have to pay for a situation like the one you got in with this person is that something like what has happened could happen. If the child is really yours there is the chance he will try to find you when he is old enough. Make yourself findable if it comes to that.

Answer 2

You are missing out, young man! You have the right to get to see your child. If your present girlfriend love you she is going to understand that this happened before you met her. Be nice and polite to the child's mother (if the baby actually exists), and try to keep tryng to establish contact with your baby. Later though you might want a test just to make sure that you really are the father. I don't want to sound like I don't believe her, but you just never know.

Answer 3

Sounds fishy to me,you must find out if the child really exists,but it sounds to me like she's playing games,
and if she's not than she's bitter about you having moved on and that is why she doesn't want you close to the child.
If in fact there is a child how do you know he's yours?
Very interesting story now I have so many questions!

Answer 4

You are responsible to make your life most complicated

Answer 5

Are you sure there is a child??? The way she acts, i wouldnt think so...