Ok, so me and my friend have an unresolved debate about one's self and self-esteem/worth. He claims that he has gotten to the point in his life where he feels as if he can love himself as if he was his own significant other (but he's not a cocky person, at the same time). Now my side of the argument is that one can't love themself to that extreme without being overly egotistical.
So, I want your opinion. Are we just blurring the lines between self-worth and egotism, or are they separable? And also, where do you draw the line between these two?
2007-01-31 18:20:57 · 7 answers · asked by ♥♫!♫♥ 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why does loving yourself is egotistical? To love yourself means you care about your existense in such amounts that you want to improve. By improving yourself, you also imrpove the way others look at you. Therefore it becomes easier for you to accept others since they too accept you more.
I think it is more egotistical to hate your self, to never try to improve and better your self, feeling secure in your present state. By neglecting yourself, even if you love others, you neglect, in way, those around you.
The fact is, when everyone else has left, there is only one person left; you. If you cannot accept that person, love that person and see this person as someone that can be loved and acccepted, then probably noone else will. Loving yourself is a great step towards us becoming more social.
Now, you do have a point though. To take it into extremes is to change its nature. Self esteem is only inches away from vanity. But in the same way love is only inches away from hate. While it is perfectly healthy to love yourself, it can easily become harmfull, if we lose the actual reason for loving ourself in the first place.
I really hope I am making sense, cause I am really sleepy at the moment!
[The use of "you" is general and does not refer to you!!! - I thought I should clarify this :) ]
2007-01-31 19:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by kaustikos1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 18:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think self worth is if you can love your self just about unconditionally-- accept your mistakes as learning experiences, be happy for yourself when you do well etc.and doing this for yourself and not in comparison to other people. To me Egotism is when you are always comparing yourself to other people and thinking to yourself how happy you are that you're a little (or a lot!) better than them-- making better decisions than they do, accomplishing more, etc.
2007-01-31 18:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie Preston 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've come a long way to be able to feel like your friend does,he loves and believes in himself is a True Blessing and I Admire him for learning the great gift of Life --
2007-01-31 18:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus Christ, I don't know what's up with your friend. Better yet, I doubt anybody here does unless they're a psychic weirdo. Don't you have something better to do than to dwell on this argument? Get over it and live!
2007-01-31 19:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend has an ego problem. You can love who you are and have great self esteem and confidence but if you let it go to your head, your friends will soon be far and between.
2007-01-31 18:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Adam S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Bible says "Love the lord your god, with all your heart soul mind and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself" so if you don't love yourself you can't possibly love others
2007-01-31 18:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by hop4him 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋