...She is my first love. We've been together since we were 8. The last years we lost contact. Now she is married with a 2 years old daughter and she says that she wants to be with me...
We were talking the last five months almost every day, but is really hard for her to get a divorce. So i told her that is better to stop have any contact and give up from this dream, even i love her so much...
And i wonder... Have i done the right thing? for me, but mostly for her??
2007-01-31 18:11:21 · 18 answers · asked by dbatz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As hard as it is for you, you have done the right thing! If it is meant to be, who's to say what the future holds. But NOT now. She is married, and needs to put her efforts into her marriage. If she walks away from her mate, what would prevent her from doing the same to you. Spare your heart, and send her back to her husband!
2007-01-31 18:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she loves you. I think if her daughter was older she would probably leave with you. A lot of women have a hard time getting a divorce when they have children. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you. its probably hard for her to see you out of her life again. And yes you made the right decision for BOTH of you. You can't keep being there if she is not going to leave and if you do leave and not talk to her as much maybe she will realiZe she does love you and leave her hubby.
2007-02-01 02:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing from the start would have been to stay away from each other until she decided what she wanted to do about her marriage. Even if she leaves her husband for you, how will you ever trust her? She's already proven that marriage means nothing to her because she's cheating with you. Your whole relationship is based on deceit and lies. It's better for both of you to move on and go your separate ways.
2007-02-02 19:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. Try to cut off all contact from her. It hurts, but it's the honorable thing to do.
Think about the little girl. She deserves to have her mom and dad in the same house. You don't want to be the one to split them up.
You live you learn. This girl wasn't the one you are supposed to be with. You'll find her.
2007-02-01 02:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by hopewriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing there are lots of fish in the sea and you should not be a home wrecker be proud that you ended the communication between each other it is the only thing that could be done.
2007-02-01 02:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read so many responders using the words "its the honorable thing to do." They're correct! You are doing the honorable thing for her, her family, and especially you. Now you know you should not have begun the affair in the first place. But we all live and learn. You'll learn to love again and make sure she is single.
2007-02-01 02:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have. If she really wants to be with you she will get a divorce no matter what kind of life style she has to leave behind. The fact is, she probably wants to be with her daughters father.
2007-02-01 02:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. The right thing is not always the easy thing. Hat's off to you.
You also have to remember that if the mom is willing to sacrifice her family to be with another, then she is certainly self-centered enough to do the same to you in the future. And it's no "different" with you.
Good move. Kudos.
2007-02-01 02:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you definately did the right thing. she belongs to someone else and if she really wants you then she needs to get a divorce.
2007-02-01 02:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by veni*vidi*vici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is a married woman..
Stay away from her..
Is she wants to divorce her husband then she
becomes available..
It is very easy to get a divorce if she wants one..
2007-02-01 02:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋