This guy and me that have had a thing for each other had sex one night. Well now to go to find out the condom broke. Well now i'm going to have his kid. But i'm still in highschool, and i'm only 16 years old. And I don't know what to do, so if you could help me out.
2007-01-31 17:59:17 · 26 answers · asked by Siver Kiss 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First im gonna say Congradulations. Next im gonna say its ok to be scared. But i have a story for you:
My best friend had sex with her man and the condom broke. She was 16 and She ended up pregnant. Her mom was mad at first and then understood. She was a big believer in abortion but then she realized that an embryo is a real baby. You do have the option of adoption. or keeping it. She kept hers and now has a healthy baby boy who is 4 months old, he is her life. Well our school helps teens out but her mom and her bfs mom helped her out, during the day he went by my sis's house and she watched him while my friend went to school, she only had to go half days. well now she is graduated and working part time.
2007-01-31 18:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Chusa_Loca 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Planned Parenthood can tell you more but basically here are your options:
1. Abortion- it is too late for the Plan B abortion pill, but if you had taken it within 2-3 days of having sex you would not be in this situation. Know that for the future and consider ending this pregnancy now- you can not afford it, you are not ready for it, you are not in a situation to be raising a child- and this "guy" you were with probably isn't either.
2. Adoption- if abortion is something you can not do for emotional and/or moral and/or financial reasons adoption is always an option. Adoption is a wise, honerable and very caring thing to do for this baby. You will give this baby a better life - he/she will be raised by a family who desperately wants him/her. Give this baby to someone who can provide for him/her and love him/her. You will be able to move on with your life and FINISH SCHOOL.
3. Having the baby is also an option. You will struggle your whole life and have another life on your hands when you are NOT READY. A child is a lot of work and RESPONSIBILITY- and it will make finishing school and the rest of your life difficult and expensive. You may love this baby, but will you be able to give it everything it needs and deserves? If not, consider the other options. How will you afford to feed, clothe, house, raise this child? Think past the first year. It seems like it would be easy to have a baby, right? What about when he/she gets older? That isn't as easy. What will you do when he/she gets sick? Do you even know how to take care of a baby or child- every day, every night, all the time? You're going to have to work- will you be able to afford day care?
Don't do this just because you got yourself in this situation. That's not the best reason to bring a child into the world. It was a mistake and you don't have to pay for it for the rest of your life.
Also- see a doctor right away. If you have been sexually active in the past you should be seeing a doctor for regular gyno visits. If not- you need to do this. Go to Planned Parenthood. Get tested for HIV immediately and in 6 months and do this regularly if you remain sexually active. After you give birth or after you have an abortion- whichever you decide- be sure to get the HPV vaccine. This will protect you from cervial cancer- it protects against multiple strains of genital warts and is very effective against cervical cancer. If you are having sex this is recommended. Also, after giving birth or having an abortion- whichever you do- GET ON BIRTH CONTROL. The NuvaRing is easy and you don't have to remember to take it everyday- just place it in your vagina once a month. Otherwise the pill or the "shot" are options. BE RESPONSIBLE and use birth control. CLEARLY YOU CAN NOT DEPEND ON CONDOMS. Do not smoke, drink or use drugs during pregnancy. Everything you do now affects the baby- and if you choose to keep the baby every decision you make from now on will affect him/her. Keep this in mind.
2007-02-01 02:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by emmers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 and have known people in your situation. It happens so often but people never talk about it. I have 2 female friends that got pregnant at 16. Both will admit now that their lives would have turned out much better if they didn't keep the pregnancy. I once got a gf pregnant. We were so young and not ready. She didn't keep it. We aren't together anymore but it was the best and smartest thing to do. The family planning nurse said it is one of the most common medical procedures performed. No one talks about it tho.
You are not ready. Don't listen to religious fanatics. You have your whole life to get educated, build a life, find a husband and choose the right time for a family.
I promise you, this is the best thing to do. It happens all the time. Imagine your life now with a baby. 99% your guy will eventually leave. Don't be a single mom. Your life will be so much better if you have a baby when you're ready. You just got unlucky. Visit a clinic and talk to a doctor. This is the best advice you will ever hear I promise. Don't listen to the religious fanatics. They think they're right, but they just don't get it.
2007-02-01 02:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider all of your options----abortion, adoption, or raising/supporting the child. or, maybe a parent or grandparent would help you with taking care of the child.
if you are going to carry the child to term (meaning not aborting it and giving birth to the child), get prenatal care AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. in the meantime, stop smoking, drinking, and doing drugs--if you do these things. eat healthy, and eat plenty of good nutritious food. drink a lot of water.
if you are going to have this child, prepare for the huge change that is going to happen in your life. you may need some kind of government assistance, if your family will not be able to or is not willing to help you financially. Seek help NOW. it only takes 9 months to make a baby, and in the scheme of things, that is not very much time. consider how you will feed it, clothe it, and take care of it. will you look for a job? will you finish school? who will the baby be with when you are at school or work, if so?
If you have a Planned Parenthood in your area, call them tomorrow and make an appointment. Whatever your choice is--whether its keeping the child, aborting it, or adopting it to someone---Planned Parenthood will help you every step of the way. If you dont have a Planned Parenthood in your area, the best I can tell you is to go see your doctor, if you can, or call a Planned Parenthood ANYWHERE and ask them what you should do...tell them where you live and that youre looking for someone who provides services like them in your particular area.
Know that you are still a child. Although many teens have children each year, its not an easy task, and many are not able to appropriately provide for their child at their young age. Seek professional help for all of your questions, and don't be afraid to ask them. This must be a very difficult time for you.
Best,
Christina
2007-02-01 02:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by christina rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start planning and organizing. You need to find day care or someone to watch the baby while you're in school/at work.
You're gonna need a ton of diapers and formula.
Start taking pre-natal vitamins and stop drinking/smoking if you haven't already.
See your doctor for regular check ups.
Exercise. Eat right. You have a whole new priority and life will never be the same again no matter what you do.
2007-02-01 02:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister just turned 18 and has two kids, and you know honestly, it is not as hard these days for young mothers. So do not worry. Yes you are very young but you are bringing a new life in to this world, what is not to be happy about. They have programs for young parents that give good advice, they really help YPN is the name, see if they have that where you are, it is worth it. Also talk with your health care provider, they can give you other programs for young parents. These are support groups, and they really do help alot.
2007-02-01 02:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by sneekygirl69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADOPTION!!!! It is difficult, my girlfriend and i went through an adoption not to long ago, it is the most diffcult thing you will ever do to give up your child, but when it comes to a child it is not ab out what you want it is about what is best for the child. and since you are not even graduated from high school yet, what kind of a life can you truely give that child? adoption gives a gift to so many people, it is a truely beautiful thing.
2007-02-01 02:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one can help you but you. Since you have chosen to grow up before your time then get a job and pay your own way in this world. I assume you have already told your parents since you were mature enough to have sex right?
Well i hope your life works out for you
2007-02-01 02:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would reccomend adoption...i kno it would be very hard to do...giving your baby away...but u also have to think what would be best for the baby...and if u do go that way..try and make it easy for ur baby to contact u when it gets older! b/c comming from an adoptee i wanted to kno where i came from! and wanted to kno the history of my family and wutnot..but then theres also adoptees like my sister..who doesnt wanna kno nething cuz they are happy with wut they got! and if u wanna have an abortion..thats ur choice! no one can tell u what to do..it is ur body! but if you do have an abortion there might be alot of guilt that comes with it and the relationship that you have with ur guy will prolly do a complete 360...jus prepare your self for the worse! good luck!
2007-02-01 02:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by BaZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 26F you can always email when you need an ear or want to vent. I will also help you get info on stuff like that if you need.
My email is Meg@TorrieWedding.com
My MySpace is MySpace.com/Musiciansrock
Stop by email anytime kiddo. You will be just fine.
Meg in Tucson, AZ.
2007-02-01 02:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋