i find my self attracted to both males and females, this cant be normal, i have a college fund, and if my grandparents found out i was bi or lez it would be gone in a millisecond. is there a way to just stop liking girls, or am i going to have to face it?
2007-01-31 17:48:04 · 13 answers · asked by tmhangel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can be attracted to girls and not be gay or bi. I think plenty of girls are hott or cute whatever it be, but i don't date them. You could always wait till you get out of college to date girls if the attraction is seriously that strong.. or just date them. Either your grandparents wont freak out as much as you think or you can pay for college yourself like a lot of ppl do.
2007-01-31 17:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by eRicA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, and what I've been told by other people is this: Everyone is a little bit bi. I believe there are three levels here
A) Purely Aesthetic "that guy or girl is really good looking"
B) Purely sexual "I don't have a emotional attraction but I wanna *Bleep* her/him
C) Emotional, falling in love etc.
Everyone has at least one of these, if they say they don't, they are to afraid to admit it. There is nothing wrong with being bi or gay or straight. People that say its gross and wrong are just straight (as they can be). I grew up in a conservative christian home, went to church 3 times a week read my bible daily. When I started having feeling for females I fought it. I developed sever depression and other mental issues. I thought I wasn't strong enough to fight it, or that god didn't love me enough to help me. When I accepted it (when I went to college), and when I met others like me, I discovered there was nothing weird or bad about me. I liked both and there is nothing wrong with it! If animals and great people in history can be gay and bi, why not you and me?
You may feel safer hiding your bi-ness from your family for a while, its a sad thing LGBT's have to do, but its common. Once you get into school, join a LGBT club, you don't have tell you are straight or bi or anything. You'll see just normal you are.
I'm posting some sites, check them out, and if you need to talk, I'm here, and don't have a life!
2007-02-01 03:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mithrandir_black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you're erring on the side of bi. No you can't change it - you will have to face it.
If you are Bi though, there's a chance you'll get a fine boyfriend and your grandparents need not be any the wiser.
2007-02-01 09:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to face it, but i'd recommend finishing school before getting involved with anyone. Even if you were straight, I'd say getting secure in life is the most important thing to do
2007-02-01 02:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to face it unless you want to spend the rest of your life constantly hating yourself and trust me, you don't want to go down that road. Though it doesn't mean that you have to tell your grandparents right away...
2007-02-01 09:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face it.
thats what i'd do.
the "this cant be normal," bit
honestly
look arround you,
it's not the majority but its not "not normal"
as for the grandparents
if they cant accept something so trivial as sexuality
(yes i know it's not trivial to them but it is in real life)
then they are just being stupid.
they'll find out one day
2007-02-01 01:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by asphyxia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are bisexual and there is no way to stop it, but if you like guys, then no one ever has to know.
This IS completely normal. No one has to know about a little experimentation, if it is done tastefully and you feel you cant restrain yourself.
2007-02-01 01:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but there's a way to pretend you don't like girls until your out of school!
2007-02-01 02:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to change your true nature, but I do not think it is emotionally or physically healthy to do so. It will lead to shame and anger.
2007-02-01 15:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Greg C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeding just gross desires. Men and women were created for each other only. God designed that perfectly, and people go against that because it feels good (but in reality is an out-of-the-pit-of-hell kind of sin). If God had intended one gender to love itself, He would have made only one gender. Pray about it and give it time. Just please don't give in to it...actually, no matter what, you will end up in hell after you die if you do not repent of your sins (all the bad things you've done, and NO one is sinless). Believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross and rose again, and you will be saved from sin & hell (and you'll go to heaven eternally forever after death!).
2007-02-01 01:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋