I have been seein this guy for 3yrs now and we have a 1yr old son i think we moved 2 fast everything was good in the begining, then after baby things started changing. First he started telling that he didn't want me to go out side, then he didn't want to work, then he didn't want to hang out with my friends unless he was there, it seems like he doesn't want to help me very much when it comes to baby or help clean up the house, last year he got mad a couple and through his alarm clock at me. he never hit me or the baby, and when we had to move back with mom i thought he was lighting up sum, now he's becoming his own way again he wouldn't even let me go to a family dinner with my mom and grandma. it seems like nothing is makin him happy, unless he wants sex and gets it.i don't want 2 do that, i see that he's asking girls out on the pc, he works during the day and home i'm not sure what 2 do affraid to tell him 2 his face so i wrote a letter 2 his inbox what should i do? should i stay?
2007-01-31 17:39:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
uuugggggg......NO! Girl you need to get outta that relationship immediately...that dude's not even worth your pain, father of your baby or not, so you need to do whatever is neccessary to get him outta your life and your baby's life...you need to take care of bussiness and quick or it's just gonna get worse and worse! And trust me from experience (not personal but friends' and family member's) with a temper like that he will end up hittin you one day so get rid of hiw now! And I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through all that stuff...it's not right!
2007-01-31 17:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in an abusive relationship. He is isolating you so you will not have anyone to confide in or talk to. He will then try to make you believe that his anger is your fault. eventually he will hurt you and your baby. Leave this man now. Do not ever go back. Get a restraining order. Let everyone know what he is doing. ie. your lawyer, parents, councilor. They will help you keep you and your son safe.
2007-02-01 01:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage.
Never have kids out of wedlock..
Never marry someone in which you can see character or personality flaws as they will only get worse after marriage.
You seem to be past all of that advice so all you can do is
to break-up, move on and start over....Wiser choices next time.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 01:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will continue to get worse in the ways he is going. The only way he will change is with outside intervention, like counseling, but he won't want that. If he can make you do what he wants, why should he change?
2007-02-01 01:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by I'm not tellin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems he has anger issues, for the baby's sake you both need to confort the issue's head on as a couple because he need's your support. and if that dosen't work you need to find a safe place like your mother's house and confort him far away if you have too. the last resort is to get him in jail
2007-02-01 01:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i believe that u should leave and move on because it looks like he doesnt love you he just wanted you for the sex so move and dont worry you will find a guy that will care for you or your baby.
2007-02-01 01:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by jansport 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...
Well the best way would just be to sit down and talk to him about it.
Its not going to be easy, but you'll be glad you did. You don't want to live with regrets such as, "I should have talked to him", becasue if you don't talk to him about it, you'll have to live with the fact that you'll never know what could have happened, or what he would say.
2007-02-01 01:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by ggggggabe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes been starting the cycle of abuse....if youre afriad to talk to him, thats definitely not good. hes controllling you and what you do, and who you see...not ok....hes isolating you....another factor of abuse. and putting you down....my inclination is that you should get out, for both you and your baby.
2007-02-01 01:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get somebody to whip his *** really good!!! i'm in the military and i've discovered that a little *** whipping can go a long way
2007-02-01 02:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by TrueGemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋