2007-01-31 17:39:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i cant move out im only 14
2007-01-31 17:43:01 · update #1
Love your dad as unconditionally as possible. You are your own person. Your dad's decisions and life struggles needn't be your life struggles. But you can help him by loving him (or her--whichever s/he prefers to be called).
2007-01-31 17:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Vaughn 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋
You know germany did a study and found that 1 in every 4 children had a form of gender nonconformity. Though not every child that had a gender nonconformity will progress into a transgendered person. So your dad is living as a woman?
Do you talk to your dad about this, about what his plans are?
tyr to understand he most likley had gender nonconformity scince he can remember, but never had the issue treated, or even knew what it was. Sounds like your dad did become hetrosexual to some degree, he had a child. i do not know if he struggled with homosexuality issues? Just understanding it more may help you cope. Your 14 and it is hard to have acceptance amung your friends about issues like these.
2007-02-01 08:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is your dad no matter what kind of clothes he wears. If he is transitioning to become a woman, he feels that you are mature enough to handle this. You have to see things from his perspective, he has had to keep this bottled up for sooo long, he feels that you are at the age to handle this. The best thing for you is to talk with him, see where he stands with this. Be honost with him, if you are uncomfortable with this tell him, he should respect your feelings too. If you can't hammer out a compromise, talk with a gender counseler. Also educate yourself on the subject, I always say that ignorance is the greatest detriment to us, find out as much as you can, ask your dad questions. Fact of the matter is nothing is going to change your dad, and he is still your dad, and I am sure that he loves you very much, and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. I wish you the best of luck, and I know you have a hard road ahead of you, just show your love to him and stand by him, cause he probably really needs your support.
2007-02-01 07:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by JML 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it is very tough for you. Ask your Dad if he will let you talk to a psychologist to help you cope. As a transgendered person your Dad had to go through quite a bit of counseling himself so he will probably understand your request. A counselor will help you put it in perspective and give you guidelines to deal with your friends reactions. Good luck sweetie!
2007-02-01 01:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
kid, at 14, it seems like parents are doing NOTHING but yelling at us. It could be months between them, but it seems like it's every day....
it's easy, just look at hyr (tg term for female) and say "yes mum" (something different than what you used for your mom when she was alive, so your "mum" realizes that you aren't mocking, making fun of, or trying to put make hyr your mother).
It is NOT selfish! People come out later in life, simply because they are afraid of people beating them, killing them,etc...etc...
get over yourself. Not everyone is the same, just because you know ONE tg person does NOT mean you know them all!
try www.butch-femme.com
ok kid, back to you. Look up SOFFA support groupd (Signifigant Others, Friends,and Family members), even PFLAG.
You will be fine, realize that the world does not revolve around you and that your "mum" is going through a very rough time right now, even though shi just lost a woman I assume shi loved very much.....
2007-02-01 04:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are support groups out there for transgendered people and their families and friends. Try finding one near you if possible. Go there with your father. Let him (i should say her!) know how you feel. Since your asking, it must feel pretty isolating to you going through that along with your father.
2007-02-01 04:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kimu 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to move out ? It's your dad's life, and he's made a very tough decision, so you should make an effort to be a little more understanding.
I understand that it would be hard for you - especially at your age - but ultimately, it's his choice and his decision ....and it wouldn't have been an easy decision for him to have made.
He may look differently on the outside, but he's still your dad on the inside - and that's what really counts.
2007-02-01 01:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋
insist on counseling to help you and him both to do what is right. ask your mom or a very close relative to help you help get proper counseling as well. best of luck.
2007-02-01 05:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean, how do you cope??
Stop being so selfish and realize what he is going through. Yeah 14 is tough, but can you imagine changing gender, especially with a daughter?
The guy has been through alot, let him become the women he feels he is and help him.
2007-02-01 01:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by hairy pouter 3 · 2⤊ 6⤋
YOU JUST DO! THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU ITS ABOUT YOUR DAD!
2007-02-01 02:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋