Can someone please talk to me, I need serious help and there is too much to write to get it all on here and Im desperate. This is not the 1st time its happened and I dont know what to do. I want to leave but there is ice on the roads and I have 2 children to think about. briefly its: he got mad cuz son wouldnt lay down. blames me. yells at me. starts telling me im worthless. I do my best to get the house clean and everything done everyday and if i dont, he yells. tells me he hates me. i go sleep on the pull out. son follws me and i start trying to get him to sleep. he comes in yanks him out of my arms LITERALLY. im the one that always gets him to sleep everynight, hes usually asleep already....cusses at me, threatens to hit me (he did along time ago) i want to leave RIGHT NOW but there is ice on the road. how can i sneak out of here anyways? Im really scared now. Ive been sick all day and he thinks im faking, ive been throwing up and had 103 temp...theres more...lilyfrog2003@yahoo.com
2007-01-31 17:02:00 · 27 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But how...with the roads...the only place i can go is 2 hrs away. I cant stop shaking...
2007-01-31 17:07:08 · update #1
Thats not just my email, that is my messenger as well, Im trying to be as quiet about this as possible
2007-01-31 17:26:25 · update #2
Yes. Call the police right now. Tell them your husband is scaring you and your children and you are afraid it will escalate.
He threatened to hit you, he was violent towars your son- call 911 now. Is he drunk or high? It sure sounds like it.
You deserve better, honey. Your kids deserve better. No one should have to live this way. Your life can be so much more. Call the cops, get rid of this jerk, at least for tonight.
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Don't try to "escape"- he's the one who needs to leave, not you! Call the police and let them take him away! Your kids should be able to sleep in their own beds tonight.
2007-01-31 17:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
How To Report Verbal Abuse
2016-10-30 07:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call the police for anything, including and especially behavior such as his. You have to call them. I'm a father of a 5-month old baby, and I would NEVER EVER act like that. Neither you or your children should have to live each day with such an angry person. I'm not one to judge people or tell people what they should do, but your husband is a major (explitive)hole and does not deserve to be around you or his children when he's acts like that.
The sooner you start a new life, the better life will be for you. This will go on until one of you is dead, so make your move now and give your children the life they deserve.
2007-01-31 17:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there now! Yes, you can call the police for verbal abuse (it's called domestic assault) or if you believe he might hit you. You can actually press charges against him for the time he hit you before, if you have evidence that he hit you (pictures of yourself, neighbors who might have heard things, etc).
Is there a friend or neighbor close by that you could go to? Is there someone you could call to come and pick you up, and let you stay with them? There might be a women's shelter in your area that you could go to, where they keep you and your children hidden so your husband can't find you.
I'll pray for you, and I really hope you can get out of this situation as fast and easily as you can!
2007-01-31 17:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation and you need to think about your kids, and get out of there. Especially if hes grabbing your kids out of your arms. This type of behavior can get worse so fast, and then you will be stuck worse then you are now. If I was in your situation, I would wait till he leaves and make arrangements for someone to come and get you and the kids, while he is gone and take just what you need, and go. Also if you call the police, they can only hold him for a few hours, and you can possibly file a restraining order on him, but honestly, what is a piece of paper really going to do? Do what is right for your children, and get out of there soon.
2007-01-31 17:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by sneekygirl69 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't call the police. Just break up with him, problem solved. There's no penalty if u break up with him.
The police on the phone might just say you're whining. The thing about calling the police about a problem is that THEY are not the ones with the problem, YOU ARE. Would they really care about a problem that isn't theirs? Now if there was a murder and it gets on the news, then it would be THEIR problem too.
2015-09-20 20:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Scorchio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your life or you children's life's are in danger, then yes, phone the police immediately. Ask them to take you and the children to a safe women's shelter. Your first priority is your children's well-being. If your husband is 'yanking' your son around, you must take action. I know it will be very hard to leave and it's scary to think about trying to make it on your own with 2 children, but you can do it, just as many other women have done.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 17:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nah, your problem is bigger than just verbal abuse, hon.... when you get better, get into counseling and figure out why you feel you deserve such treatment, and why you are still there....Find a way to leave before the guy kills all of you..... No one should be treated so poorly, and you have admitted that this is not the first time.....in fact, why ARE you still there??????????? Kids or no kids, this is not a healthy environment for them nor for you if there is even a shred of truth to this....
Then get out, get yourself and your children into a woman's shelter, go back to school, get a job, and become a success. Tough??? of course. but in less than a few years, you'll have a career, your life your own, with your own money and you and your children safe. Those years are going to pass anyway... make them work FOR you instead of AGAINST you...
2007-01-31 17:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Call the police you are in trouble there and so are your 2 children. if you can call a women's shelter while hes at work and get help from them. I left my abusive husband with my 2 kids and a suitcase 3yrs ago.. i waited for him to leave the house and called a shelter i found in the yellow pages and they came and met me a few blocks from home and drove us to a safe house.No matter how you do it you have got to leave asap if not for yourself then your kids. I'd love to help you more i have tried to add you to my yahoo messenger
2007-02-01 19:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call the police if he gets physical with you or if he threatens to get physical with you. And I'm pretty sure if you call them and just tell them you are in a bad situation with your
husband and that you are afraid of him they will send help to you.
Also if you happen to have a relative or friend nearby they will
most likely bring you there so you don't have to drive on the
ice. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I understand and have
dealt with it too. I hope you will be OK.
2007-01-31 17:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by jenn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just as you said it the kid's word against yours. If the phone call was not recorded then they have no proof and you have nothing to worry about. I was in a similar situation and a temporary restrianing order was filed but in court the judge through it out because there was absolutey no proof. Don't worry about it's not that serious.
2016-03-15 03:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋