After being raped, beat, stabbed and almost shot?
Is it wrong to want to drink the memories away?
2007-01-31 16:44:44 · 15 answers · asked by Perfectly Insane 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Dear Ryan,
That's an interesting selection of words you've chosen, but I really do understand your meaning.
I don't think you need to be "paranoid", because that would mean that you are frightened of perceived threats that are not real. One does not have to fear what isn't real. I think the word you need to substitute is, "caution", or "situational awareness." When you have been the victim of a violent crime, you certainly do not want to endure that again. So you're going to be aware of your surroundings, and be more cautious about putting yourself into a vulnerable situation. And that is what I think you're really afraid of, Ryan. Being vulnerable. And none of us like feeling that way, so it's understandable.
You know, one of the cruelest things I ever heard someone say to a victim of an assault ( I was a Deputy Sheriff, so I've seen this personally. ) was "I know how you feel." You see, no one knows how you feel, Ryan. What happened to you violated your whole person. It could have cost you your life, but by the grace of God you were spared, and I'm very glad about that. But you will have those memories with you, because it was an event in your life.
If you choose to "drink the memories away", that is only a band-aid, love. It's a temporary numbing, but when the numbness goes away, you still have the memories and the life experiences to deal with. And there will still be more of life to go through. Also, the alcohol will present itself to be an additional problem to you. What you've endured is hard enough, but you really do not need to add anything more, don't you agree?
Ryan, there are so many crime victims out there. So many people who have been hurt. And I know you hurt inside, I can see that, even in your short note. But you have two routes you can take, sweetie. You can either live in perpetual hurt, or you can take those bad experiences, let it strengthen you, and go out and help others who have been hurt, just like you. You've been there. Who would know better than you how someone in that situation felt?
You can let bad experiences destroy you, or you can gain strength from it, and go out and do good in the world and help so many people who need you.
Honey, don't let yourself sink. And don't camouflage your pain with alcohol, it won't help you. What will help you is gaining strength from your bad experiences, and give of yourself to others who are in pain. I think then, you will heal inside, and others will begin to heal also. Which do you think is the better plan?
I'm very sorry that you hurt, I really mean that. But I pray that God will strengthen you, and that you will go out and give comfort to others who have experienced the bad things that you have. And if so, I think the healing process will begin.
My very best wishes and prayers to you. Be safe.
2007-01-31 17:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by C J 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
After being raped, beat, stabbed and almost shot not only would I be paranoid I think that I might want to re-evaluate my life all together.
2007-01-31 16:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Thumper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after enduring all of the same as you except the jerk missed when he shot at me I say no it is not wrong. I do NOT think you ARE paranoid my friends say I am paranoid too, but I don't think so. I consider myself very cautious and very aware of my surroundings, and anyway, lately i have taken to carrying with me everywhere I go a 9mm Smith &Wesson 6906 so people better be scared and paranoid of ME now, (and I don't drink, I have NOTHING to feel guilty about, i do shooting range instead, listen hon...buy a weapon you will feel MUCH MUCH better and you can recapture your power)
2007-01-31 16:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paranoid is just another word for overly-cautious. And there is nothing wrong with that these days. It could be harmful to drink away the memories, though. That's what counseling is for. Just don't blame yourself for anything that happened. It's not your fault.
2007-01-31 16:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you being paranoid? NO! But to try drink the memories away
wont work. All it will do is cause you and those that love you harm. You know how to reach me Ryan, you can talk to me if you want to. - E
2007-02-01 07:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Chickadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should take caution concerning our personal safety but anything can be taken to the extreme. If paranoia is interferring with your life then it's time to seek counseling.
2007-01-31 16:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by shendley04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do whatever it takes to get you through. I don't mean this in a rude way, believe me - but you need professional help. Get some counselling as soon as you can.
2007-01-31 16:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by irish1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paranoia is healthy and keeps you safe. It is just a slight step up from vigilence.
2007-01-31 16:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by voodooprankster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like post traumatic stress syndrome...not paranoia.
2007-01-31 16:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Chistiaŋ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong. its not the healthiest way to deal with it. as i've been through a similar experience but i understand why you feel that way
2007-01-31 16:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Boop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋