Would you get down... ignore it and leave it to the subconcious... how do you handle that...? And how do you change ingrained habits from childhood?
2007-01-31 16:42:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, first.. ask yourself.
is that ALL true?
if it is, then THANK GOD he/she told you.
it's a calling to be be aware of that now!
becos it's important to keep growing out of old mistakes
if it's not, then ask that person why he/she thinks so.
you might not be able to see your own blind spots, but others can see better.
Ignoring it and leaving it to the subconscious usually doesn't effect changes.
For me, i'd cope by thinking it through and through with my past actions.
There's no need to be sad, or sulky over it.
It's just a mistake, and mistakes are present because we are not perfect, so just pick up and move off!
and as for changing ingrained habits.
first you have to WANT to change.
i highlight the DESIRE to change AGAIN!
Then, look for a role model for what you want to change into, superstars, models, celebrities, songs. bla bla bla..
find something to keep your motivation going, print pictures, get posters, constantly remind yourself to be AWARE of old habits.
slowly but surely the changes are made.
they don't require alot to do, but just keeping at it.
It's all in the mind~!!!!!
I've just passed on alot of good information here, it can be very widely used.
Use it to your fullest, think it through alot.
Your brain is the greatest gift.
Good luck~!
2007-01-31 16:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by dommmmmmmmmmmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is truth in what they have said even though it hurt your feelings, you need to give a lot of thought to how you handle the information. This will be a form of self-help and may work out for the best. Consider the source and the truth. And if it requires and apology, then do it and go forward. Good luck
2007-02-01 00:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either agree or disagree. I know for a fact that Im not perfect and neither is the person 'hurting' me with real or supposed truths.
I dont know anyone who's changed since childhood.
There's still some of that child in everyone at every age. But, I suppose there's always room for change when one learned way doesnt work, look for a new way. peace
2007-02-01 00:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hurtful things usually have some truth in it or it wouldn't hurt. I would look at the source it was coming from and see what they saw in you to make them want to say that about you. Are they jealous of you? Do you have something that they want from you? Take pleasure in that and see why they attacked you.
Then, my best way to cope is to correct or become comfortable with whatever it is that's true. Then you can have a snappy comeback when someone says something about it again.
2007-02-01 00:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by intelligent_excursionist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always accept constructive critism and try to fix what I am told is wrong as long as I agree that it is something that I need to work on and you do no deep down if its the trurth or if some one is just being mean. Take it as a helpful message from someone who cares. Try to fix it and move on.
2007-02-01 01:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by smmma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that I've been told some things that hurt by others, but I knew it was true. Yeah, it hurt but I couldn't get mad at them for pointing it out. I knew they were telling me to help me and because they care. You learn from it and move on. If its something from your childhood, first you have to realize that it is infact true and try to understand why....ask yourself how it affects your life today and those around you. If you want to change you can.
2007-02-01 00:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wud just accept it...sometimes the truth can hurt...but sometimes it takes someone on the outside looking in to point out our faults since they may have a clearer picture...i wudn't let it get to me or consume me...i wud just think about it and take steps to correct it...ingrained childhood habits r hard to change but can be done...again if necessary i wud take steps to correct them if it meant i'd better myself.
2007-02-01 00:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what the person said and try to change whatever was true. Old habits are hard to break, but it can be done.
2007-02-01 00:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it as constructinve criticism
2007-02-01 00:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take it with a grain of salt as constructive criticism
2007-02-01 01:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋