Background-Honest, Reliable,Loving, and Caring husband for the longest time and then all of a sudden his personality drastically changes and he acts out ot character
2007-01-31 16:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by Tgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If a man was still in love...they would never be looking in the first place in my opinion. Depending on the age, it could be the old mid-life crisis.
Now the personality itself may not change til after they have done something wrong...and that could possibly be out of guilt...or lack of feelings at that point.
None of it is excusable, though it seems to happen more and more often.
Seek counseling before doing anything rash...if you think there is anything that you can salvage. Especially if you have children involved. If he won't go...get some for yourself.
If you are spiritual...PRAY about it.
2007-01-31 16:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Randal D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through same siuation. In case my current fiancee was in a 8 yr relashionship. At the end of it she felt no love for this guy. But rather than leaving him, started having affaris, toshock me, 3 in all, will all married men!! I have been to professionl relashionship counciler & she adviced me that our view on fidelity is not the same.
I will advice you to:
1. Talk to him & find out if any of your actions have made him feel that relashionship is not working. Don't cry or pick up a fight when this discussion is happening.
2. Access if he has been fliery/ of cheating nature before he met you/ during the time he is with you.
3. Ask to yourself that Do you really have a future with this person. Remember: Love is not just enouh, you have have trust, faith, sense of security & respect in a relashionship. Do you both have it for each other?
4.If you can afford, then talk to a professional, but basically she will also help you help yourself.
All the best my friend,
Hopefully you will be happy soon
2007-02-01 00:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many reasons why a person cheats. It could just be for sexual gratification with another person or it could be that they are missing something out of the marriage. I know a person who had many affairs on his wife only because he was not willing to grow up and wanted sex with many different women. It is up to the person to tell the spouse what they are missing. I think it is a cop out to just find someone and have an affair. It is just plain wrong. If a person truly loves there spouse they will communicate with them and tell them what thier needs are, so they can get met.
2007-02-01 01:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All human beings r interested in having a relationship out side marriage and will find an excuse for doing so. If he is repenting his encounter with another woman, it may be ok for u to accept him back in ur fold and he will in probability be at ur back and command.
2007-02-01 01:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love somebody you wouldn't look for in others what you already have.
If you see yourself interested in somebody else, for whatever reason, check your present relationship and be honest with that person, either work in your problem or leave.
2007-02-01 00:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult a professional counselor and not rely on the yahoos on Yahoo to help you with this.
2007-02-01 00:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a chemical imbalance...seems odd that he would change so drastically.....
or he met somebody who gave him more than what you give him, and as a result, he is falling out of love with you and in love with her.
2007-02-01 00:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pal i have been your shoes and once you have been cheated on you never forget it. i got divorced from her back in.2003. over this it stays in your mind as to what she did to you this i know for a fact i honlesley wish you the best on this but you never forget what happened this i know for a fact. my opion?
2007-02-01 00:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋