Im a new mom, and my daughter is a little over 1 month old. my mother in law likes to give coffee to her grandkids when they are almost 2months old and on. she said that she did it with her 3 kids, and shes a really big coffee drinker herself... and im a bit skeptical about it all. is it safe for my daughter to have straight black coffee that young? how do i tell the mother in law how i feel without offending her?
2007-01-31 16:27:31 · 31 answers · asked by rayne 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
caffine is a strong drug and expectially black coffe....
But.....I had problems with my son and constipation and didn't want to give him harmful laxifives and supositories...so i went to doctors and he actually suggested me giving him some coffe mind you he told me to ad milk.cream and some sugar...and yep it worked like a charm..
in moderation it won't do any harm..my son is now 2 1/2 and he still gets a sip or two every morning or so from my cup..
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But at the same time it is your own child and if it make you feel uncomfortable. I know you don't want to be rude being your motherin law but tell her how you feel...
You are the mom now not her and you need to do what feels right
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-31 16:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by marion 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
No they shouldn't be drinking coffee, way too much caffeine for them. Babies shouldn't have ANY caffeine. It keeps them wired and might make them fussy b/c they won't be able to take the amount of naps they should take. Coffee, is mainly drank to wake yourself up or stay awake. It makes me feel jittery. Imagine the effect on your baby...it's doubled the effect of an adult. Just explain to your mother in law the effects that it could have on your child. You could kindly tell her..."she's had her opportunity to raise her children, now it's your turn." I had the same problem with my mother in law...she would give my daughter EVERYTHING she shouldn't have (coke, chocolate, peanut butter!). I told her the effects that caffeine and sweets can have on her now and later. She eventually stopped b/c she wasn't aware of those effects. I sometimes catch her sneaking some drinks in, but a grandmother will be a grandmother. Good luck!
2007-02-01 00:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by nutritionist 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coffee has the opposite effect on children. Instead of waking them up, it makes them sleepy. But, if they continue drinking coffee, it will eventually have normal effects on them. But, there's no way children should be drinking coffee at all. It can stunt their growth. Also, it is a drug. Coffee drinkers that quit drinking coffee, or accidentally switch to decaf, get bad headaches. Which is withdrawal. I'd be freaking out if anybody was giving my kids coffee. It is an addictive drug that's not good for you. I would be very sure to offend your mother in law for being that stupid. Make sure it stops.
2007-02-01 00:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time Mothers know best but Mother in laws just want to help and make sure you are doing it right....LOL
She is probably just doing what her mother in law told her to do .
Don't be so hard on her just yet, you will need her in a few months.
Probably the reason she is giving them a little coffee is the caffeine is good for contraption. Even some breathing problems.
My mother in law wanted me to put smashed dirt dobbed nest on my baby for diaper rash. They mean well and do not strike her down with out asking her why...I am sure she will tell you.
And when you need to take a nap remind her...remember when I let give my baby coffee..well now she will not go to sleep...will you come over and let me take a nap? LOL
2007-02-01 00:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason to give coffee to a child. Besides, it's hard enough to get babies to go to sleep without getting them hopped up on caffeine, that can't be good for them. It's your kid, just tell her not to give it to them. If you need a reason, caffeine is a diuretic and the child could get dehydrated, especially since at that age they are just drinking milk or formula. Adults can drink water if they get low on fluids, but a baby can't communicate that she's feeling dehydrated. I would say no, it's not safe, and there is no good reason for it. Time to pull out the "I'm her mother" trump card and make an executive decision to put a stop to that nonsense. It certainly won't hurt your baby to NOT drink coffee.
2007-02-01 00:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and tell your mother in law that you do not want her to give your daughter coffee. The caffeine in coffee is addictive - thereby making coffee a drug. If she insists, then make sure you are always present when she is around. Just because she "did it with her 3 kids" doesn't make it right and although I wouldn't say that to her, you should put her in her place when it comes to your daughter!!!!
2007-02-01 00:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
caffeine is really really bad for baby, even if u r breast feeding her , you should not take too much coffee and infants should only be breast fed or formula fed atleast for the 1st 4 months ...
but if you really want to satisfy ur in law give the baby a little bit after she completes 4 months or maybe aftr 6 months.. but isks are babies tend to be restless and things like that...
Is baby sensitive to my caffeine intake?
According to the Breastfeeding Answer Book (LLLI 2003, p. 599-600), excessive caffeine consumption by the mother (more than 750 mL per day) can result in a baby who shows signs of caffeine stimulation. "A baby who is being overstimulated by caffeine is a wide-eyed, active, alert baby who doesn't sleep for long. He may also be unusually fussy."
http://www.kellymom.com/health/lifestyle/caffeine.html
2007-02-01 00:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by pinkcloud2015 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my father in law liking to give my 5 month old anything off his plate, Be FIRM! Tell her you DO NOT want your child to have coffee, that you are trying to raise her with out substitutions from her normal food that you feel it would confuse her. Best Of Luck.
2007-02-01 00:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the mom and you should just be able to say "please dont give her coffee" Its your right. When I first had my daughter my mom in law kept testing me trying to give my daughter pepsi, turkey sandwich, and more this was when she was only 2 months old. I didnt like that at all, and I just told her. Plus she tried to give my daughter some food out of her mouth saying she chewed it up for her, but that is not good because you can give the kids germs (thrush) You have to stand up for your kid.
2007-02-01 00:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. Caffeine is a drug. Your new baby does not need a drug. You can tell your mother-in-law that you really love your pediatrician and trust him/her very much. So you are going to follow his/her advice, and he says the baby can have only formula and water at this time. In fact, ask your pediatrician what to tell your mother-in-law, and stick to your guns. You are your baby's advocate, his guardian, his protector. You will have to use kind firmness with your mother-in-law, and everyone else who suggests something you know is wrong. Good luck!
2007-02-01 00:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh! its really surprising, Coffee for infant.
Sorry mam, Its really dangerous as coffee include caffeine which is really harmful to health.
Haven't u heard in newspapers and many magazines that they are advicing even the adults not to have coffee. And better to convince your grandma not to give coffee to your child.
2007-02-01 00:48:56 · answer #11 · answered by vijaya l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋