I've met this guy from internet,we chatted for 4 mos.before he decided to visit me..He went back to his country and after 5mos.he visit me and proposed but before he proposed,he admit he's married but I accept despite of that,I am in love!Besides,he said they're not staying together anymore.I only believe in him and trust him so much but I had the feeling that he's hiding something and I waited for him to open it up to me so we can discuss it in very smooth and calm way.He came back again after 3 mos..and go back home and after 6 mos.he came and visit me,,I found out he still with his wife..His wife called me and telling me they're not doing anything..I got hurt because,I use to believe that they're not staying together anymore..As of now,after he went back home..I always think of them.I am waiting for him to divorce but he said he doesnt know till when and the girl will stay there while the divorce is on process.I love him so much and I dont know what to do?Do I still have to wait?
2007-01-31 16:16:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a deceiver and you are lonely, A recipe for disaster...for you.
2007-01-31 16:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, honey. Run away! I was in almost the same situation with an ex. And I'll tell you that was the worst two years of my life! I couldn't believe I was so blinded by love. I wish I had left sooner.
Being engaged while the guy is still married is no fun, even if him and his spouse are separated. When the rush wears off, the engagement starts to feel fake and you start to feel like a side-dish. You deserve better.
He should have known better than to propose to someone while he's married. His behavior is really pathetic!
2007-01-31 16:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joa5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say the chances of him really going through with getting a divorce are slim. According to the time schedule you gave, he's already been stringing you along for over a year. He's lied to you a couple of times already, so why wait around for more lies. Get over him and get on with your life. There are plenty of single guys out there on the net. I'm sure Mr. Right is out there, you just have to find him. Also, since you are in two different countries, you might not be aware of this - but you can not just move to another country to get married and live happily ever after. You have to officially immigrate, which can cost thousands and take over a year, depending on the country.
2007-01-31 16:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but get the fool out of your mind. If he's giving you this kind of bull now, what do you think he will give you later. You can't change the color of the horse, once he cheats he will always cheat. Trust me, I've seen it to many times. Plus how much do you really know about an internet friend, you can be anyone on the internet, look at all those child molesters out there that play like they are a 15 year old boy and thy are 45. get out now.
2007-01-31 16:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweet sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's happening quite often that married people from other countries try to married citizens just for the papers (if they don't have then), even their spouses agree to this so one day the other after getting a legal status they get divorce and that way they can bring their spouse from their country. Sounds awful, but it isn't . I hope this is not your case because nobody should play with the other person feelings.
Just be careful. You don't want to be married to a bigamist.
2007-01-31 16:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a folly to fool around with a married man. Let him be a free man first and then only one shud think of engaging. Further engagement is a sort of an agreement to get married. He does not have that capacity till he gets a divorce from his present wife.
2007-01-31 17:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very insecure and desperate woman. You need counseling and need to start loving yourself. Go about your business, work, hobby and friends. Lose weight if you have to. Build self confidence and a great descent single man will notice you someday. Until then, you don't need a man! Especially a married man from a different country whom you "met" on the Internet.
2007-01-31 16:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for what? Girl, get a clue, HE'S NOT LEAVING HIS WIFE!! He leaves for 3, 5, 6 months at a time, what the hell do you think he's doing? His wife called you? How wonderful do you think your life will be when or if he gets a divorce? Do you think he'll love you more because you waited for this dead-beat?
2007-01-31 16:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not engaged to a married man. You are his MISTRESS. If he loved you he would have left her the moment he fell for you. Anything that isn't that is just an excuse for him to keep getting twice the action. There's probably other women too. Otherwise he would be visiting you more often. Don't waste your time or else you might end up in his wife's position in a few years, if she ever has the sense to leave him.
2007-01-31 16:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't u know that a man is still married until the papers have been finalized?!!-He may never leave his wife &then u just the other women. Move on u deserve a man that is honest from the begining
2007-01-31 16:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey Please,
Let me tell you something I was in your shoes and my now husband had one shot to be with me and believe me he took it. A man is going to do what ever we let him do. When I started dating my husband he was living with a chick and still legally married to another all that ceased when I found out I let him know that if he wanted to be with me then I would be #1 or #0. And today we have been together almost 10 years so don't you let that man dictate what you are worth you are a diamond and you demand to be treated that way. Keep your head up and don't let NO man treat you like a Side show WH#$*.
2007-01-31 16:26:32 · answer #11 · answered by Sexxy Wifeey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋