He and his girlfriend don't have much sex, like once a week (I said join the club - haha) so he likes to materbate regularly. His girlfriend knows this but doesn't like it. He wants to know what he can do, on one hand he gets none and in the other he does (if you know what I mean) but his girlfriend thinks its disgusting and degrading to her. What should I tell him?
2007-01-31 15:37:27 · 19 answers · asked by jtgot1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your friend to tell his g/f that masturbation is a healthy part of any male or female's sex life. There is nothing wrong with it, or anything to be ashamed of. He's "having sex" with his hand, and why she has a problem with that comes right down to immature jealousy and attention getting on her part. If she's turning him down then she can only expect him to masturbate more. In this case there is nothing right about her trying to control his natural sexual urge. Would she prefer him to get relief with another girl? I don't think so. She has no right to tell him what he can do with his own body!!
2007-01-31 15:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell his girlfriend that if she doesn't like how often he masturbates, to give it up more. lol. My boyfriend does probably daily. But I only see him on the weekends so its fine by me. Granit, I don't want to hear about it. But I don't care how often he does. It has nothing to do with me except the fact I'm not getting any either. lol. He just needs to tell her that he's a guy, they do this unless their getting the real thing. And that she should be glad that he's not one of the guys that does it daily whether he gets some or not.
2007-01-31 23:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by gi_jane_kicks_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That masturbation is 100% normal and healthy. Get a book on Sacred Sexuality and show him the parts about masturbation. Have him show his wife. Hopefully she'll change her attitude. The book might help her to see sex as more of a beautiful and natural thing.
2007-01-31 23:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They need to discuss the issues behind it all. Is she just not highly sexed?? over worked?? Maybe they need to add some spice to their sex life. Maybe she isnt being pleased?? Guys do have a higher sex drive and I have experienced the same situation. As long as he doesnt go looking elsewhere!!
2007-01-31 23:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he doesn't like the sex with her.. maybe she isnt that good (im being serious not trying to be mean ok...) if she really likes him, she should talk about this with him.. maybe she should try to improve their sex life, bring in toys, sexy underware... sex games... ask him what his fantisies are... does she do oral?? if not why?? tell her to do this for him... all these things you must consider.... good luck...
2007-01-31 23:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST: he should not be telling you this unless he wants your help with the banging SECOND: if he is REALLY just a Friend seeking advise tell him to talk to her ask her why does she not want it is there something he can do to please her more THIRD: tell him to tell her DO YOU RATHER ME DEGRADE AND DISRESPECT YOU BY BOINKING ANOTHER CHICK OR PLEASE MY SELF? and also tell her this can be all avoided if you just put out more what, has she never done it herself why is it so gross anyway my goodness what is wrong are they like 80? .
2007-02-01 00:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lilah L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
boy wait till they marry and he have to really pull himself together but he has to workout if he wantsto keep this relationship stay out of that one the girl has the problem not your mate as as this is a natural out let 4 guys when they dont have anyoneshe has isues stay out of it
2007-02-01 09:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to find another woman. If she is not willing to take care of it for him, then what is he supposed to do?? That is rediculous.
Rule #1: No American women!
2007-01-31 23:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by g g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its none of her business; she doesn't need to know every detail of his horny life; especially if he's pleasuring himself. If she won't do the job believe me he'll eventually find someone who will.
2007-01-31 23:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, why's he telling you all the details?
If she's not satisfying him and he's having to find other "creature comforts" - no future there, time to move along.
2007-01-31 23:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋