SHe is taking clomid. She is often very stressed and unhappy that she is not pregnant yet. She confides in me alot about how upset she is that she isn't preggos, and I dont know how to help her. Any suggestions what I can say/do to be supportive/helpful?
2007-01-31 15:35:22 · 5 answers · asked by Penny P 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I'm sure she knows that as long as she is so stressed, she is affecting her ability to get pregnant in a negative way. I had a friend like that, on Clomid. I got her a St Gerard medal. I am not Catholic, but she was, and St Gerard is the patron saint of expectant mothers. She wore that medal, and prayed to St Gerard every day, and became pregnant 3 times over the next 4 years. I think it was her change in attitude, becoming more positive, that helped.
I think trying to relax about becoming pregnant, and putting your hope or faith into another power sometimes takes away some of the stress. Has she tried something like yoga, or some form of meditation that can help her relax? It may be worth a try, and maybe you could go with her.
There are many studies and articles showing the stress can affect the ability to become pregnant.
2007-01-31 16:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as being on the other side of this as the infertile friend, all i can suggest to her is that you listen and lend a shoulder to cry on if needed. she doesn't want you to tell her how to fix things, or that she will eventually have a baby. this may not be true and she knows this. educate yourself about her problem so you can have an educated discussion with her if she wants, but do not offer advice. if asked for advice just offer small amounts. she's done her research, she's under the care of a trained dr. what she needs from you is support and support only. don't ever tell her just to relax, it will be ok, or any empty offers. just tell her you are so sorry for what she is going through and support her decisions. the best advice i ever got from a friend after a failed cycle was an honest hug and a tear in her eye. you are a great friend for taking the time to find out what is best. here's a great website that can maybe help you understand what she's going through. best of luck to you and your friend.
stress does not cause infertility, infertility causes stress. if stress stopped you from becoming pregnant there wouldn't be so many women pregnant from rapes, in domestic violence situations, lack of financial stability, etc...don't start any sentance with have you tried this....or a sentance that contains the words relax or don't worry it will happen. no one knows this. while meditation might help her relax and not be so stressed it will not help her from becoming pregnant. infertility is defined of having unprotected sex for a year or more if under 35 and 6 months if over 35. just be there for her, that's all you can do and all she wants. she will tell you if she needs more from you. and if she pushes you away for awhile, don't be offended. sometimes infertile women who are doing fertility cycles need time for themselves. she will come back to you.
2007-02-01 01:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by cagney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her know that you will be there to confide to, but let her know that it's completely normal for it to take months to conceive. Sometimes it takes a year or so even with the help of chlomid. I know, it took me that long. Tell her not to give up.
2007-01-31 23:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by wheezerthill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let her relax and note her monthly cycles to know when she can make a proper timing
2007-02-01 02:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Samsonovitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.beautifulandpregnant.com
2007-02-01 00:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by MARIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋