When a couple has a fallout, which is so bad that a not only do you break up but, there just seems no hope for reconciliation no matter even if one side tries. Is it impossible for the one that has completley shut himself off and not feel anything anymore. My ex wants nothing to do with me anymore, he deletes my emails because I can check the status, yet he was at fault for the fallout. Can someone not feel at all anymore and become to hate that person that he once loved?? Do you really think he doesnt care??
If you knew him, he is the type that has to look almost perfect in other's eyes, and he was that way with me. But now that I found out some things about what he has done that has damaged our relationship, he wants nothing to do with me. Is it because he is ashamed? What he did was very wong, but I know he has a good heart deep down.I got very angry at him, but I feel bad, I dont want a realtionhip like that anymore, because I couldnt, & I dont think he wants one either anymore
2007-01-31 15:26:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I never wanted to lose him as a friend. Its been 6 months andI have tried everything and the more he ignore me the more angry I got. I will admit I never left him alone to think about how badlyhe hurt me, I kept persisting we talk. Believe me when I tell you I can never take him back as aboyfriend and he knows this. But deep down I know he has goodness in him. Not once did he ever call me a name or disrespect me, we had a great relationship, but hes got issues to deal with. But I dont know what to do anymore. Should I leave well enough alone??:((( I miss him. and I have told him.
2007-01-31 15:29:36 · update #1
It sounds like you are feeling sad and abandoned and want to get him back and make things better. There also seems to be some resentment that you value the relationship more than he and want contact even after he damaged and ended the relationship.
It doesn't matter how or why he wants out. That is his business. You cannot control him, in or out of the relationship. Continuing to have contact with him, to trying to figure out his motives for the things he did, and making excuses for his bad behavior and trying to reconcile when he ended it are crazy making things to do.
"Leave off that excessive desire of knowing; therein is found much distraction. There are many things the knowledge of which is of little or no profit to the soul." - Thomas A'Kempis
Take care of yourself and go find your own happiness in life. Love will find you.
2007-01-31 15:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly - STOP STALKING HIM! If you're checking the status of his emails you are STALKING.
Secondly - take a deep breath, thank the lord for the time you shared with each other - because now that you have felt love once, you will recognise it the next time and hold onto it with both hands and realise that all fallouts, big and small can be resolved if the true basis of a relationship exists.
2007-01-31 15:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 06:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by franchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you think he still has goodness in him and that you knowing can make your friendship stronger. Tell him to get help if you feel he needs it. Most importantly you will be there for him when and if he needs you. Then stop emailing, calling, etc. Give him time to think and deal with the situation.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 16:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over, let it go. He knows you know his secrets and men hate that. Now he can't pretend to be so good anymore.
2007-01-31 15:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes let it go no need to say more to him and his friends you are starting to look like crazy girl
2007-01-31 16:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by russellvero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2007-01-31 15:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by guyfreefun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋