2007-01-31 15:24:38 · 13 answers · asked by cinderella overdrive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I actually rented a house from her mother and step-father, it was about seven acres away from their house...we lived there for 5 years...so I kinda saw my mother-in-law on a semi-regular basis. Now we own a house in town, they live in the country...it is pretty much down to family gatherings. My father-in-law lives in a small town near us. Family gatherings again. However, I would like to state for the record that I think my in-laws are wonderful people and they seem to like me too, so...
I don't know what would be considered normal, but seeing them at least once a week shouldn't come as a surprise to you...depending on how close the family is, it could be more frequent.
2007-01-31 15:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by jay_fox_rok_god 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see my in laws about once a month, and they live in the same city as us. Once a month is enough too- because they drive me nuts! I think for couples that like their in laws, once a week would be normal. Anything more is intrusive- I think.
2007-01-31 23:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Penny P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the relationship that you and your spouse have with them. the girlfriend and i have been together for 17 years, 1st clue, and her folks live in the next town,5 miles away. they are retired and sleep until noon every day,2nd clue. it was expected that their daughter WOULD meet them for breakfast/lunch at 2 pm one day each weekend. talk about breaking up your weekend plans! the girlfriend bowed to her mothers demands/wishes for about four years until i had had enough of it. we had planed to visit my mother, an hour and a half away, who is a widow and needs a helping hand from time to time, and informed the in laws that we wouldn't be able to make it that weekend. the m-i-l had a meltdown temper tantrum! back in the 60's and 70's she visited her parents every weekend and her daughter wasn't a good person waa waa waa!!! so i calmly asked her how often she visited her in laws? she responded about once every month or two. i said fine, your daughter is way behind on her visits to my mom then, we'll be seeing you a little less often to even things up. she was dumb struck, the peace and quiet was really nice for a change. we now visit them once or twice a month, as our schedule allows and see my mom about once a month now. it's nice to stand up for yourselves and have your own life, too! good luck to ya, hope you can work out something that works for all of you, too.
2007-02-01 01:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by car dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband and I see his parents maybe once every month or so and we live in the same town.
We see my parents at least twice a week and they live 30 minutes away.
His family is not good for my sanity though, which is why we don't see them as often.
2007-01-31 23:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by patti_jim_reynolds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to them on the phone about couple of month and see them 4 or 5 times a year
2007-01-31 23:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT's different for different families. My sister sees her in-laws everyday because they help her babysit her daughter. Some people see them every week, 3 weeks or a month. It's fine if it's a month. I don't see mine cos they are in heaven already.
2007-02-01 07:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I live across the street from my mother in law. I see her everyday, thank GOD we are very close, she is a great lady. She is a widow, and although very independant, she relies on my husband alittle more than she realizes. She never oversteps her bounds, and is a wonderful lady.
2007-02-01 11:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll visit them whenever i feel like, maybe 5 times a yr, cos their drive me nuts. I hate 2 go 2 their house. And nothing in common 2 chat. I would rather go 2 my mum house than going 2 their house.
2007-01-31 23:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by da da 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on many factors:
your age, how well you get along, are kids involved, are the in-laws in poor health, etc.
If you get along or if they are quite elderly or in poor health, then once a week could be considered normal.
2007-02-01 01:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i seen them every weekend when they lived in the same city, then when they moved to another state i seen them once a month
once i got divorced i see them sporadically since our daughter lives with me and she should have access to her grandparents
2007-02-01 00:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋