I'm a partner is a 7 year old business that is recently struggling. My wife has been home for 2 years and I would like her to go back to work to help with the finances and medical benifits. She quit her job after our 2nd son was born 2 years ago. She wanted to be a at home mom. I made plenty of income at that time to support the family.. We have a 2 and 4 year old. Money is tight so I asked her to consider going back to work. She freaked out! She hates the thought of a stranger caring for our boys. How can I get her to understand that I need her to help out for a while? We are at risk of loosing our house. Need help fast....
2007-01-31 15:07:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We pay $600 month for medical insurance.
We live in a condo thats 800sf. I belive it's to small to sit for other children.
We live in CT. She can make about 40K a year. Day Care is around 400 a week for both children.
Thanks
2007-01-31 15:46:36 · update #1
she doesnt want to leave her kids with strangers... if you Fix that for her, she will work
2007-01-31 15:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends on how much money she could actually bring in. Would she be able to pick up where she left off, salary-wise, and is that a good chuck of money? Or would she be starting over at the bottom of the totem pole somewhere? It's important to consider because you have to decide if it would even be worth her going back.
Many people don't realize that once you factor in daycare costs (double for you), fuel, work wardrobe, buying lunch, etc, it's just not worth it to go back to that and leave your kids. And don't forget -- you will also be hit with more medical expenses than you have ever had before. Once your children, who have been sheltered for the past 2 years, go into that daycare environment they will bring home everything there is to catch.
My advice is to sit down and really calculate the amount of income she'd actually bring home before pressuring your wife too much. You may find that its just not worth it afterall. Good luck.
2007-01-31 15:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to stay home she can always babysit other kids. It is a great opportunity to make money and stay at home with the children. It is really hard to leave your kids with someone else, especially when they are under the age of 5. She can do daycare in the home and believe me she can make good money at it at well. She could also use your computer and work at home as well. There are jobs out there that allow you to work at home. Do not get mad at her she is a Mom trying to do the right thing. She can also be scared to look for a job because she has been off of work for two years and it is a very hard decision to make when your a mother to leave your kids in someone elses hands. She should help and try to make money some way or another.
2007-01-31 15:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much would she really make after paying daycare costs, gas to get to and from work, etc?
How are you living? Are there areas you can cut back in? I'm asking because some people say money is tight but they buy $5 coffees and drive volvos. It's a matter of priorities.
If it is really necessary that she work, I would recommend something in the evening part time so that you can watch the kids. That way no daycare costs and a parent is still with them.
Good Luck!
2007-01-31 15:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by redhead77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would her working provide enough income for day care for both children? That is expensive then you add in the cost of gas and take out taxes. Is it worth it for her to work? Would you really gain any money? Or how about she get a job where she can work from the home? Or you pick up a part time job?
2007-01-31 15:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by chemky1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving mom going to work after 2 years think about it worried about her kids which she stayed home for and going to work after years of off and things and times have changed so fast now a days. I would freak LOL. Help her like you would her to help maybe part time, give her a time like 26 months and if things do not look good by then you will look at selling your half or some thing.
2007-01-31 15:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by russellvero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife what she would suggest you guys do to solve this problem.
Sit down and as a couple talk about what will happen to the whole family if she doesn't go back to work.
Maybe when your business gets back on it's feet she can stop working outside the home again.
As a mother, it's hard leaving your children for someone else to care for.
2007-01-31 15:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your wife and go over your monthly budget. Try to figure out if there is any way you can cut down on expenses so she can remain at home. If she wants to stay home bad enough, she will find a way to economize. Ask her what she's willing to sacrifice. Does she have her own car? If so, maybe she'd be willing to sell it. Unsubscribe to the paper or cable tv? Look at rental ads in the paper to see if there's a cheaper place you could move to.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 17:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, a Day Care would be more trustworthy. Is there a hobby that she likes? I started making candles. Some web sites charge more than others for supplies. soycandle.com is a good one. Maybe she could work while you're home, so you can watch the kids & save $. I clean houses & do some typing...Plus the candles.
2007-01-31 15:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Suze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard situation.
I am a stay at home Mom and it would be horrible to go back to work. Is there a job that she could find, such as hospital billing or ER admittance that she could work evenings or nights so that YOU would be able to have the children, so that strangers wouldn't be raising them?
I was thinking hospitals b/c of benefits.
2007-01-31 15:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:41:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋