why is it that if you ask a child support question...some stupid guy says get a job....when i have a job?

Question

is that the only comeback they can think of?

Answer 1

It is natural for some men to view child support as a way of being punished. He then takes the anger that he already has about his ex-spouse and sees her as nothing but a gold digger.

But not all men are like that. There are some fathers who are responsible adults. There are plenty of fathers out there who are willing to take care of their kids financially and emotionally.

But I have a question for you, why do women make it seem like the kid(s) is just hers and that the father is only good for paying child support.

I seen it where men hate to pay and women love to take. So it becomes a dirty game and its the kids who suffers from the battle. Daddies say "I aint paying her **^*^" and mommies are saying "I am going to take him to the cleaners"

And the kids are saying - "Hey stop fighting- I just want my mommy and daddy to love me and be there for me"

Answer 2

Wow there have been some great resposes from men. Yay!. Yes Children need alot of money to do well;and alot of love.If you lay it all out on the table (the expence)the man will surely shut up or apoligize.It takes two to make a baby and a whole village to raise the child.I had the same experience he thought I was using the money to party when I never left my for a full year before girlfriends dragged me out.Show him the cost of milk alone never mind diapers.Mine is 13 now and the courts decided upon 110$ per month and I worked it out he buys him lunch everyday.No shoes or clothes or school expence never mind sports or treats or anything else. If it were me I would make sure I covered my1/2.Men just don't feel obligated or responsible. Maybe we should install better values in our children and give the little boys carrages and dollies to play with.

Answer 3

Because not every custodial mom is a good parent. Sometimes it was mom who was unfaithful, and then she keeps the child away from dad, while using the CS to fund her affair.

Many of us dads have no problem supporting our children, and if given the chance to be the custodial parent, would be as good if not better than many moms out there.

But the double standard pervades and we pay to support children we are seldom able to see, and watch our support money being spent on things other than the care and upbringing our our children, and the courts do nothing about it.

If you miss a payment (and I have not, I VOLUNTARILY paid CS long before the court got around to awarding it to my estranged and now ex-wife) they will hound you like you were bin Laden. The same scrutiny is not performed on the mom to ensure she is using the money for the child.

I know that my ex-wife could not afford her current standard of living if I had full custody, and she had to earn enough to pay her $1200/month rent payment, plus a car note on the $20K/year she makes.

But double that money with child support, especially since it's tax free, and she is living well.

I'm more than happy to take care of my daughter, because I know what it's like to be abandoned by a father and I will never do that to my girl. I just resent having to give an untrustworthy, unfaithful woman that money, knowing it's being used to run to Key West to party with her affair partner.

Answer 4

It is probably because most ex wives want full custody of the kids and child support payments, leaving dear old dad with nothing. Women have to remember that the children belong just as much to the dad. Women sleep with a man don't protect themselves against a pregnancy, or just want a baby so get pregnant, and then crab about the quality of the sperm donor. Be more selective who you breed with woman or you are going to be living in poverty. By the way, most marriages are barely making it financially so why would women think that half of barely anything be something?

Answer 5

I can tell you why because they are probably one of those dead beat dads that do not pay child support to their children. They are idiots that believe that the child support goes on getting our hair and nails done. They do not understand that us woman are paying for a roof over the child's head, paying for things that are necessities like clothing and food. They do not understand that every bill goes up because the child or children live in the home. It should not matter if you have a job or not, it is the Dad's responsibility to provide for their child and see that their child's needs are met.

Answer 6

Most men that use this comeback, usually are not secure with their own manhood. More than likely they are the type of man that doesn't take care of their own issues (like paying child support)! Any many that is a REAL MAN knows that he should take care of his responsibilities.

Answer 7

Some men think all women are here to stick it to men. They don't comprehend that yes women can work too and child support is a fact of life you make a baby you pay regardless if you are the man paying the support of the woman with the child and spending way more time, energy and money on the child then most men dream of. (Yes there are good dads out there that aren't dead beats but I am referring to the men who are on the I hate women bashing because they feel they are getting the short end end of the stick!)

Answer 8

In my opinion it doesn't matter if you were a millionaire.....the father has a responsibility and he should still pay support for his child....that's the bottom line.

If it were reversed.....the mother should have to pay.

But you have to stop caring about what other people think....who the heck are they anyway....

Answer 9

Because only "little boy trapped in a man's body" would say something like that, REAL men want to take care of their children and will do all that it takes to do so.. little boys look at child support as giving the "mother" money rather then giving their children money and most little boys that are trapped in a man's body, are extremely selfish and suffer from "SMALL PENAL SYNDROM" so they hate the world .. lol..

Answer 10

Because some men all dumb, stupid and immature. They don't have anything else to say and they probably be the ones who still owe child support so girl don't let them stress you!