I love my gf but?

Question

she's just not "freaky" enuff for me. I really wanna try crazy stuff..threesomes..orgies..sex in public...I really would like to try everything and anything at least once. But she just shoots every idea down..How can she say she wouldn't like to be banged by three guys without trying it??? What should I do?? Be true and stay totally depriving myself of these experiences...or dump her???

Answer 1

You are going to have to let her go especially if what you want is multiple partner she won't go for it, and you'll end up getting what you want at her expense.

Answer 2

Hey...let's be honest, I read the answers given, and the bible thumpers, well, you already know where they will end up. The judge mental...same place, but the ones who are thoughtful about the question are right on point. I have a similar question still open for answers, and the overwhelming answer is to introduce the idea slowly. If she is LISTENING, she will see you are in need of whatever you are searching, if not, well you are wasting time. Divorce has reached 58% now, I had to face increasing that rate, or decreasing my chances in part-taking in that rate...either way, your answer lies in how you want to live the rest of your life with that person.

Answer 3

Love involves some sacrifices. If she is totally against your ideas (some of them I can totally understand why she would be), then you should respect that if you want to keep her. Personally, I think that threesomes and orgies are just asking for permission to cheat. I understand that everyone has fantasies, but you need to decide whether or not you love her enough to keep them just fantasies. If you decide that you don't, then you need to be honest with yourself and do the things that you feel you must do. Be prepared for her to move on without you.

Answer 4

I hate to tell anyone to break-up with someone, but it is obvious that you two are just not on the same wavelength regarding sexuality. Neither of your view are the "right" way, or the "only way". Your views and feelings are simply right for you.

But those views won't change. You are not all of a sudden going to see things her way. Over time you'll resent her because you are not being who you are so that you can be who she wants you to be. Chances are, she is not going to wake-up one morning and "be freaky" like you want her to be. It could happen, but it probably won't. To expect each other to change is just wrong and unfair.

I'd say both of you should move-on and find someone more compatible with what you are looking for in a partner. When you both find it you'll really know what being in love is. True love is accepting and desiring someone for who they are, not who you would like them to be. In true love you bring freedom to your partner. Freedom to be who they are. If the opposite is true, and you love them "but..." Then it isn't true love. It's just momentary infatuation. An infatuation that will fade when your need to be who you are is not met in the relationship.

Answer 5

The more you push a woman the more she's going to pull back. If you want your g/f to try new things then your going to have to try being patient with her. It wouldn't be fair for her to do something that would not turn her on...that means she would be doing it solely for you. Try taking baby steps with her...try letting her know that if she did any of these things with you that you will still respect her. Let her know that your opinion of her will not change. Don't be so quick to dash for the door if this woman means anything to you.




ok...what's up with the bible verses...lol

Answer 6

You should find yourself a whore who's up for what you want. And your girlfriend should find a nice, decent guy who would respect her. No offense, nothing wrong with experimenting, but everyone has to be on the same page.

PS: You don't love her. If you did, you wouldn't want all these other dudes around. Or at least be happy to respect her body, feelings, and decisions.

Answer 7

YOU DON'T HAVE TO JUMP OFF A BRIDGE TO KNOW THAT YOU WON'T LIKE IT.
Sounds like you know the answer to that question. You won't be able to settle down wondering what all those things are like. Go and sow your wild oats BEFORE you get married and have kids that are going to be hurt by your actions BUT be prepared to pay the price. You may never have a girlfriend as nice as the one you have now. Think carefully before you act.

Answer 8

If you really truly love her you wouldn't dump her over not wanting to have threesomes and inviting other people into your bedroom. You should respect her wishes. She is not into it if you can't respect her wishes then maybe dump her and find someone that shares your sexual interests and she can find someone who will respect her.

Answer 9

"How can she say she wouldn't like to be banged by three guys without trying it???"

You know, I know for a fact I wouldn't like to cut my own arm off with a Swiss army knife. I don't have to try it to know I won't like it. Some things you just know you won't like, and you can trust your judgment.

Yes I think you should leave her, so she can find someone who will truly appreciate her.

Answer 10

Look at the Bible's interpretation of love.

Love is patient; love is kind.
Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way: it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in truth.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
And now faith, hope, and love abide,
and the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13
Love is patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud.
Love is never haughty or selfish or rude.
Love does not demand it's own way. Love is not irritable or touchy.
Love does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when others do it wrong.
Love is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Love is patient, Love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their toil.
For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when
he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together,
they are warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man
might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him.

I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved,
let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.
Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish,
whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth:
there will I give thee my loves.

You don't love your girlfriend talking like that. Please trust Jesus Christ to take away your lust and perversions and soften your heart(sorry to be preachy)

Answer 11

Honestly, you could find someone who shares the desire to do these things. If its all that important to you, then clearly you and your girl are not right together. Sex is important and to people should be on the same page with what they want. You two don't seem to be. Like I said, you could find someone out there who wants to do those things too.