Cheating??

Question

Should cheating spouses/significant others be forgiven?

Answer 1

No

Answer 2

Forgiven, yes, not for them but for our own inner peace, and that takes time. As to whether or not the trust can be reestablished and the couple can actually have a decent relationship after such deceit, never say never, I suppose, but I believe it would take counseling and 100% effort on both parts to make things right between them. If the effort isn't there all the way to learn how to communicate with each other to become mutually content in the relationship, etc... then I don't think it would work out well.

Answer 3

The old proverb says, "forgive and forget." You can forgive without having to forget. If you forget something, you are more inclined to repeat it. Do you believe your significant other should be forgiven? That's the only thing that matters. Forgiving someone may help you heal. After all, when you forgive, the resentment and pain slowly lift away. Forgiving your mate may be of direct benefit to you. Consider the circumstances. How much did each of you contribute to this? Is it worth the effort (and excruciating pain) to work through it? Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

That depends... Is the cheater remorseful? Was it a one night stand or a year long affair? Has it happened more than once?
Anything can be forgiven... but nothing can be forgotten. If the cheater is willing to put the time and effort necessary into rebuilding trust, it can be done.
And the whole once a cheater, always a cheater thing is NOT true.

Answer 5

No! I feel like marriage is a special bond between 2 people and I just don't think that you could be forgiven. But if that person do forgive you they are not going to forget. I am married and this is my opinion.

Answer 6

Wow, this is such a personal question.

Speaking for myself, No, I could not. The trust would totally be gone. Call it a shortcoming, but I tend to hold grudges, or at least not forget transgressions. Something as serious as being cheated on is something I would never forget (even if I could forgive), so it would destroy my marriage. I would also not expect to be forgiven.

I strive to not put myself in any tempting or questionable situations because I do not want her to even have the possible thought that I MAY be cheating. There is nothing another woman could offer me that would be worth my risking my relationship...honestly.

Answer 7

Yes the can be forgiven... We all do things at times and no one is perfect and we all need to be forgiven at times.... But if they keep cheating and do not change then we need to move on with our lives and let them go.

Answer 8

Your choice. One can forgive, but the image of passion with another us usually there forever. Any counselor worth anything will tell you that it is a minimum of two years in counseling to save a marriage after betrayal, and that is no guarantee. Personally? Nope, I don't share....

Answer 9

Depends.

If it was truly a screw-up and the cheater is truly sorry, and is willing to do what's necessary to fix the relationship and rebuild the trust, yes, I think they can be forgiven.

Once.

Twice, and they're out the door. Once can be a mistake. Twice isn't.

Answer 10

It depends on the tolerance level of the people involved. Some people can forgive and work it out...Others cannot.

Answer 11

It all depends on the person. If you can forgive and truly forget, you can move on in the relationship. If you say you are going to forgive, but always throw the affair in the other's face, then you need to move on.