I do not want children, and neither does my husband at this point in our lives. Is that wrong? When people get to know me and find that out about me I get a lot of horrible looks and glares. It's a personal opinion right? I don't disrespect anyone who has kids, they have to raise them, that's their choice to have a family with children, not mine, so that's ok with me. What do you think?
2007-01-31 14:04:29 · 26 answers · asked by SadToday22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think thats perfectly fine. Why should other people care how you want to live your life? Don't worry about other people. Do what you want.
2007-01-31 14:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by whyy_nottt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying... misery loves company. There are a lot of people who'd like you to be in the same boat they are-- people who regret having kids or regret having as many kids as they had.
It is a LOT of work to raise a child. They require so much care and attention--not to mention money. I am sure that some of these people giving you nasty responses are flat out jealous that you have chosen not to bring children into the world and that you're standing by your choice. And you should stand by it. I think it is a very mature and insightful decision to make. No one should have a child if they aren't 100 percent certain they want to put their heart and soul into giving that child everything it will need....and not just for 18 yrs but for a lifetime, because once you're a parent, you NEVER stop being a parent. More people should be like you, and stand by the strength of their convictions.
There would be a lot less abused and unhappy children in the world. I know a woman who was pressured by her own parents to have kids-- she had two of them and has been utterly miserable. So no...it's not wrong to not want children. So when people give you a bad time over your choice, just smile sweetly and say the rest of the world's doing just fine keeping the world populated and you feel no need to add to the clamor.
2007-01-31 14:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its perfectly fine! some people are not made to have kids. children are a huge resonsibility and it requires so much and choices that you make could make them or break them. and some people just are not made to handle all of that stress. So i think its perfectly okay for you not to want kids. its better not to have them, than to have them because everyone else wants you too and not be able to enjoy them and end up messing up their lives. So dont even worry. i work at a school and i see everything all the parents go through with their kids and as the years go by its getting even harder to raise up children. That sometimes gives me second thoughts on weather i should have kids or not. but thats a personal opinion and choice that everyone is entitled to and you have the right to know that kids are not for you. So dont even sweat it.. if you dont want them and neither does your husband then thats great. dont worry about what everyone else says because they are not the ones that are going to have to live with them!
2007-01-31 14:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by laural8477 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly OK, and I would look at them with a question in my facial expression as to why they would even have an opinion!!!!! That is a scared bond between a man and a women and absolutely no-body's business but yours. STAND YOUR GROUND AND ASK THEM WHY DO YOU THINK I SHOULD HAVE A CHILD??? Then watch the look on their face! Having another human being, and taking the responsibilities of that endeavor is a great chore and should only be made by people who have the backbone and smarts to do it. Look at today's children, they have no guidance or leaders, because their parents thought that they should have children. God save this world. Or our USA from people who think you should have babies just because you can!!!!
2007-01-31 14:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Everyone is entitled to choice and if that's what you guys want, then why is that a problem. Everyone is always going to have something to say about your life. No Matter what you do, someone will have something to say about it. So, since that's the case, we should live our lives the way we want to. I have a son and 1 on the way, but i think that will be it for me. My hubby wants a house full of kids. Truthfully, i don't, and think this is another boy. I don't feel like having another baby, just to get a "girl" , if it's a boy ,i'll love him the way i love my son and give up my dream for a girl. I am glad you are living your life. Don't listen to others. If i had listened to others, i would not have my son, or be married or be pregnant etc :)
2007-01-31 14:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think it wrong at all, if you and your husband are on the same page there is nothing wrong with your decision, its your life and you are entitled to live it the way you want.
My aunty and uncle never wanted kids either, they are now in their late 40's, they own the huge house they built, own their cars, boat, spare no expense on anything.
They gave away a $10,000 tv cos they wanted a new one, they have to take over seas trips to get rid of some of the money they have.
All of which would never have been possible if they has kids.
Their whole lives have been about enjoying themselves and each other.
They werent born rich, they have worked very hard their entire lives to get where they are, and they dont regret a minuite of it.
Dont worry about other people, you dont judge the way they live, so they have no right to judge your decisions.
2007-01-31 14:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Krystle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong at all to not want children. Some people honestly have never had kids, and that's perfectly fine. Just because you don't want kids makes you any less of a person.
2007-01-31 14:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a baby myself but I completely respect your opinion/choice just as long as you don't go on to get any abortions, or decide when you're like 40+ years old to start having kids because then u are just being selfish and only thinking about yourself and not the kid that won't have parents cuz they died of old age.
2007-01-31 14:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet like Sees Candy's!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong. Having kids or not having kids has nothing to do with your worth as a person. If you are both happy without kids, that is better than being unhappy and having kids. I'm not saying you would ever do this, but sometimes people who don't want kids and have them neglect them.
2007-01-31 14:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Nathan W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO. I think what is wrong is people who have children just because they think it is the next logical step (or some other stupid reason) and are not prepared for them, or worse should have never been parents in the first place, I am sure that you reasons are valed and you should stick with you gut feeling on this one
2007-01-31 14:10:03 · answer #11 · answered by trouble 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋