My wife is cheating the issue isnt me ascertaining the facts but rather what course of action should i undertake , the gun or the olive branch , im quite tempted to take them both for a drive in the country a one way trip
dont bother to tell me that im irrational just need closure on the subject from all the yahoo crazies ... kiss kiss
2007-01-31 13:56:38 · 13 answers · asked by jasonvdklooster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should confront her and move on. don't take any irrational action because you will end in jail.
2007-01-31 14:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by beau410 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're irrational - your wife is cheating on you - who WOULDN'T be irrational? Short term? The gun option will probably feel better. But then there's the whole jail and he!! issue, so that kinda ruins it. Long term, your best bet is probably the olive branch... sorry to ruin your gun fantasy.
If you love her, and are willing to forgive, start talking. It's up to both of you to save the marriage, if that's your choice.
If not, pack your stuff and walk. Let her have whoever she's with.
You sound like my husband, so I'm assuming she's risking or throwing away the best thing that ever happened to her. Let her live with that.
2007-01-31 22:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well l guess which course you take is entirely up to you. Do you love your wife ? Is your wife willing to give up her cheating ways and be faithful to you ? Do you two still have enough love between you to work out your problems. Will you be able to trust your wife again ? You must ask yourself and answer these questions honestly. Then decide which way is the best course of action for you to take. It will not be easy but if you both want it enough it is possible. Good luck
2007-01-31 22:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is nobody in the world worth going to prison for.. just tell her im out of here ,pack your bags or hers and split.. This isnt a temporary thing and it gets worse.. once it starts its never over .. no gun and no olive branch..just call it a rap and go single for awhile..
2007-02-01 00:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hon, don't count me as one of the Yahoo crazies... I aint. But your marriage is over, since betrayal..... If marriage is admiration respect, passion and trust, the trust is gone, with the passion-sharing, and the respect and admiration you had for her is in the toilet, right???????
You aren't irrational --- you're angry, hurt, confused..... betrayal does that... and she aint worth no jail-bird time.... (sorry for the slang --- it is often just more effective.)
Every man, every woman deserves a faithful partner.... it is the basis of marriage, of love, and of trust, of companionship, of a shared life. Most of us are evolutionarily wired to be partnered, but we make mistakes, or the marriage grows old, or we just simply stop caring enough to make a little extra effort. Marriage wear out --- just like teeth, tires, carpet, and everything else. they can be revitalized if caught in time.... yours obviously wasn't....
Heal up, get some counseling if necessary to get your head back on straight, so that should you so choose to look, you mind will be okay to find that nice lady.
2007-01-31 22:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens. Have you given her a reason to cheat? Have you cheated? You should talk this out with her. Ask her if she still loves you at all and if she wants the marriage to continue. Then go from there. The gun won't help anyone, especially you.
2007-01-31 22:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do either...take the day off work, go file for divorce, pack all of her stuff up (or at least her clothes), put her items in the front yard, change the locks, leave a note on the door requesting that since she is so close to 'so and so' that she should go stay with him...then have some friends over and celebrate your independence (and freedom because you aren't going to jail for killing the two of them)...
2007-01-31 22:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by skittle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person... take the olive branch. I know how much you must be hurting and how badly you want revenge... I caught my ex husband with another woman in our bed... divorce her, let her have this guy they deserve each other and find a woman that is true to you. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE !
2007-01-31 22:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack her stuff up, call her a cab, tell her she can't stay in your house, change the locks, tell her to move in with her homieloverfriend and file for a divorce.
2007-01-31 22:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by nicetee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell her not to come over anymore, sorry for the heartache but it was too fun. Have a nice life
2007-01-31 22:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋