My daughter left her husband and children Iin CA and moved back to Vegas. She refuses to come to her Senses.?

Question

She has been married to the same wonderful man for 20+ years and they have 3 beautiful kids. The oldest has been accepted at a renowned University and is in her Senior year. The middle child is 16 and just a little over a year ago lost his first love in a car crash. Now his Mother. The youngest is 13 and is going through all the termoil facing someone encountering Hormonal changes with no Mother to share problems with. My Son-in-law hopes daily that she will realize what a mistake she has made and come home.
She just left on 01 January 2007 for a 31 yr old (she is 41) married Tech Sgt in the Air Force who has a child and still lives with his wife. She works for a Civilian Contractor at a secure Military Site. She has torn our family apart and does NOT CARE. What can we do to help her get well since she obviously has lost her Morals and her Mind? I love her but I cannot relate to what she has done even though I was no goody two shoes. Please, if you have answers HELP!

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear your family is going thru this. Two families are affected by this. The OM can lose his job if his commanding officer found out he was having an extramarital affair.

Your daughter has been blinded by Satan. Satan is doing his best to destroy marriages and families since we are in the end times and Jesus is coming back very soon. Your family must do spiritual warfare and stand for your daughter's salvation and the OM's salvation as well. If they don't repent, they will go to hell.

Bob and Charlyne believe in marriage restoration, since they divorced and remarried each other. Their website is https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

Pray everyday that the Lord will send His Holy Spirit to wall your daughter in, so that she gets no rest until she repents and turns her heart completely over to the Lord.

Also pray hedges of thorns around your daughter and the OM, so that they clash, lose interest and leave and say I base my prayer upon the command of the Word, "Whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder."

I discovered that for prayers to be most effective, you need to say them out loud. There's alot more, but go to the website and if you have questions, email me.

Answer 2

You need to go out there, find her, and tell her she is a dumb@ss, and that she needs to at least come back and live up to her responsibilities as a mother even if she doesn't want to be a wife anymore.

If she won't, then you need to tell her to not bother calling, writing, or anything like that. I wouldn't answer her calls, letters, etc. I would give all the love and support to the son in law and the grandkids to get them through this. I wouldn't deal with her until she came back with her tail tucked between her legs.

I know this would be hard, but it's tough love. And, the key word in there is love. Sometime you just have to get in someone's face a little. If it doesn't work, move on, and help the father and children to move on.

Answer 3

I am very sorry. This is an awful situation for the kids. I know from personal experience that the best thing you can do as their grandmother is to NEVER say anything negative about their mom (your daughter); be available to them for talks, hugs and a shoulder to cry on; keep communicating with your daughter as she will need you very soon and finally take care of yourself as you have a lot more responsibility now than you ever did before.

Try not to judge although I'll admit the situation as you lay it out sounds pretty bad. But no one outside a marriage can ever really know what the marriage is like and what goes on day-to-day. Granted her solution seems extreme and one she will regret for a very long time but try to stay in her life as well as your grandchildren and listen listen listen. I hope this helps. Good Luck to you and your grandchildren.

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is keep the communication open between you and your daughter. Let her know that you're there for her, should she need you. Also, if her husband is willing to accept her back, he needs to make sure she knows that. She will eventually come to realize that she's made a bad mistake. But she may be too afraid or ashamed to admit it and come back home, especially if she feels she's not welcomed back. If at all possible, make arrangements to go see her in person. Once she sees you, she may break down and admit she truly wants to come back home.
Good luck!

Answer 5

No one can help you, hon, nor her. She left.... . It will be a minimum of two years before she wakes up.... sorry.. That's about how long passion lasts, and if a relationship has only that, that's about when she'll come down to earth, so to speak.... Then she'll have to decide what she want to do --- go on alone, or return to her family... Then you all have the big job of trying to patch up a circus!!!!! Not fun under any circumstances... Neither is a good choice for her, for you for her husband, for her children......

Answer 6

There isnt a cut and dry answer unfortunately.. i feel ur pain, and i can understand as a mother urself u see ur daughter doing wrong and u well want to yank her by the ear and drag her back to reality, but unfortunately u cant..
She has to learn the hard way just like most what she's done, and unfortunately by the time she realizes it, it will be to late..it took my mother 20 years before she finally admitted that she made the biggest mistake by leaving my father and us kids, although she stuck around for the weekend visits ect.. it wasnt good enough.. I love my mother, but i have no respect for her and i try my hardest not to be like her.. i hold alot of resentment towards her and alot of pain and anger, although i keep it bottled up inside of me.
Your daughter is going through a mid life crisis, she no longer wants the responsibility of being a mother and a wife.. she wants to go and be free, and only worry about herself. And its going to take her hitting rock bottom before she realizes the mess shes not only made of her own life, but of her families life..
My advice to u, is to stand by what is right for your grandkids, they are who need u now, she's made her choice and for u to except it with open arms would only enable her to continue her bad behavior, basically she needs some tuff love.. do what u can for ur grandkids, they will definately need u right now, as they will want to cling to anything that has to do with her especially the younger one..

Your son in law will also need ur support, as im sure he is not use to juggling everything himself, and will at times feel like falling apart but wont be able to because of the kids.. so he's going to need u ..

As far as ur daughter falling for a married man, well u know that wont work, he's using her for his own personal needs..but like most he wont leave his wife and if he does, he'll just throw her away when he gets tired of her as well just like he will his wife and move on to the next girl.. Not sure if thats enough to make her hit rock bottom and come back , or if she will be stubborn and fear being a complete failure and decide to stick it out alone for awhile to see where it gets her..

Im sorry that u , and ur grandkids are going through this, but this isnt something u can make her come back to.. this is something she has to choose to come back to, just be there for ur kids, and show ur disapproval to ur daughter every time she trys to get ur approval..because if she thinks u approve or if u forgive her for it, it only enables her to continue, she'll use ur approval as her crutch..

Good luck to u and ur family..

Answer 7

her husband can get her for abandment of him and thier kids