me and a friend of mine been fighting for over 3 months, even tho we both wanna be together, lately i had an emotional-brekadown infront of him and he's like this must end. the day after, i called and apologized about the drama iv been causing and i told him it's not fair that he judge me for the way i was that time, cause we know each other for around 4 years! he was like ok no problem..
now, we'r back.. kinda better.. i mean i lost a lot of the feelings i had for him, and he got pretty much cocky on me! i asked him wheather he got back bcz he wants to or bcz I wanted to, he said bcz i aplogized and he wants us 2 b friends, long story short...
Now, i think that he think that iv DYING over him and i cant live w\o when the truth is i just dont wanna lose a friend nor the good relationship we had back then bcz of hard phase i went through..
i feel so bad about myself that he thinks that, that im weak and that he's better than me.. wat should i do?
2007-01-31 12:57:36 · 6 answers · asked by anne_anne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Nothing like communication breakdowns. Yea bad situation you guys are both desperately reaching for a relationship simply for the relationships sack. Judging by how this went you guys really don't have to much in that relationship your trying to keep together. Love isn't enough, love is simply the ground in which compassion and passions grow. That’s a sweet action he commented but at the same time he isn't being compassionate about why you had your breakdown in the first place. And your not really loving yourself asking for him back, it might had been "your" first sign that its time for it to end. To be brutally honest you got every reason to feel weak, because you acted weak. Let him go, its proof that it isn't your emotional wellbeing he is interested in as much as what you can do for him. Besides if the breakdown was related to him he should of been able to help you to find comfort in his words by what he says and if it isn't related to him he should of still been able to help you thru just by his presents. Chances are this has been a rocky relationship from the start for it to be broken-down by just one of your emotional-breakdowns. I know from my own experience with friends, lovers, and family that emotional-breakdowns happen and they well happen a lot the closer you get to a person and how the other person reacts can tell you everything about how much they really care about you, and it might even say a lot about how much you can love a person by allowing yourself to be emotional, but it’s a complicated dance, but you need a partner and it doesn’t sound like he’s the one. Let him go.
2007-01-31 13:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men generally think women are weak because we are so much more emotional. if he cant stand u getting emotional from time to time, he's not very life experienced around women or 'emotional' women. some men have to be around 45 50 years old to figure that out. peace
2007-01-31 21:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off and show that you aren't weak. Respect yourself. Let him call you the next few times. It may help you figure out where things stand between you.
2007-01-31 21:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to distance yourself from him for a while...
you can never have the relationship you had before back, things change.
maybe you've been too attached to him that's why he thinks that you cant live w/o him.
go out w/ other friends... dont call or send messages to him for a few days. have fun with other people.
2007-01-31 21:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by klao8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so ya'll have history, but who cares.. if he is making you feel that way, and if he thinks that he has the "upper-hand" in ya'lls friendship or whatever it is i would just ignore him for awhile. girl no guy is worth your pride. don't feel bad about yourself we all have break downs even him.. so maybe he needs to get off that high horse he is sitting on and be a TRUE friend, because him acting that way he isn't ...
2007-01-31 21:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Emmie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate drama queens they make other women seem weak and stupid. He probably feels sorry for you and is just trying to make you happy. when you act like a baby you will get treated like one
2007-01-31 21:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋