My best friend is an incredible person. There is no one in this world that knows me better. He is considerate, understanding, whitty, funny, and thoughtful. The perfect guy really... but I'm not physically attracted to him. We've never kissed so I'm not sure if I'd feel some sparks with that, but I am incredibly confused... I cant imagine anyone in the world making me happier....
Any advice????
2007-01-31 12:53:32 · 19 answers · asked by Frances A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it's looks your worried about, dont pay attention to that. This guy's personality is what you really know him for, not for how much he weighs, or what he looks like in the face. As for kissing, you wont know if theres sparks until it happens. So i'd say if you like him, give it a try. Good Luck!
2007-01-31 12:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he feel about you? A good friend or someone he would like to get to know "better"? If the latter, then take the initiative at the right time and kiss him. Until you kiss and hug (not sex) you won't know if you are physically attracted or not. Leave the sex part out because you will probably not be able to go back to being best friends after if this does not work out. Some of the responses talk about his looks being part of the equation for physical attraction. I don't think that has anything to do with it. You are either chemically/hormonally attracted or not.
If he has all of these wonderful attributes you mentioned, give it a chance. Why look for someone else if you feel he is the one that makes you the happiest.
2007-01-31 13:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ...if he is the incredible person you say he is, then whats wrong with falling for him? Are you worried about what other people will say because he's not attractive? Isn't that rtaher shallow. I think the sooner you realize that the inside qualities of a person far outweigh the outer looks...the sooner you will be a happy person. So stop worrying about how he looks. Women can go a lifetime chasing after something that was right in front of them the whole time...and never find it. Count your blessings...you found it...so stop looking.
2007-01-31 13:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Leave him alone. Let him find someone who looks past his physical unattrativeness to find him an "incredible person" who is "considerate, understanding, whitty, funny and thoughtful".
Let him find a MATURE woman who finds these things more attractive than physicality. Maybe when you grow up you will be able to find someone like this again. But meanwhile you don't deserve someone like this.
2007-01-31 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help. Though it is nice to feel physically attracted to someone...their looks are only temporary. Old age, a car accident, a burn, etc,can all alter someone's looks. I think you should give him a try. If it doesn't work for you then it doesn't work for you but at least you won't have the "what if" lingering over you the rest of your life.
2007-01-31 12:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Smartygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its funny. u can admit hes a wonderful person but are u shallow or something? it doesnt matter what his looks are.. if ur attracted to him emotionally thats what matters. it seem slike hes a great person and obviously treats u well to be ur best friend.. whats the problem?
just think... ur scared of being in a relationship because he doesn't look up to ur standards.. but if u was in an accident of some sort and ur face/body/limbs were irreversably screwed up.. i bet u anything his feelings wudnt change for u...
who knows... maybe he doesnt even have those kinds of feelings for u in the first place and doesnt want to?.
just relax..
2007-01-31 13:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by sourcherry119 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your screwed!I married the man I said that about!!Sexier men have come & gone but there is noONe who I'd rather spend my days or nights with,especially ALL DAY,Every day,forever!!Plus you'll both know when you have your 1st kiss.Believe me he wants to kiss you.Plus our lovelife is amazing because I Can Talk to him about anything!! Better than anyoneelse EVER!!Believe me that's alote of caomparison there & he is still the best.Plus looks fade but true love which is giving,honest,forgiving,not jeaulos, & kind last forever.Yes our kids are cute!!
2007-01-31 13:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder! If he is a nice guy and understands your likes and dislikes then remember..."Friends make the best Lovers". I know from experience.
2007-01-31 13:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by D T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait but there's more. If you love him and have a relationship with him then later brake up, you won't be as close friends. But then again, what if you love eachother for a very long time. Hmmm.... you'll have to think about that on your own.
2007-01-31 13:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't him that you are falling for, it is the comfort that you feel with him. I would seriously think about what you are truly feeling and go from there, talk to him but be warned, you may not have the same relationship if he doesn't feel the same way, but if he does then what more could you ask for??!!
2007-01-31 13:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by jim's girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋