tom moved into my condo complex 4 weeks ago after his divorce.he was the one to pursue me but was always a perfect gentlemen.spent 5 hrs helping me setup my computer,called to thank me for watching a movie with him ect.well it was just freindly stuff till he tryed to kiss me one night.then i asked him what his gf would say(saw him with a blond often)and he looked at me like a was crazy and said thats not my gf shes just an old friend.well when i found that i thought he would make a perfect bf.well after we had sex things changed.then his whole attitude changed he was "colder" towards me almost rude.the only time he ever called was for me to come down for sex.than i found out this "old friend" was not only his gf but the person he left his wife for.how can a guy seem so interested in u then do something like this?
2007-01-31 12:40:07 · 34 answers · asked by janeymorgen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either he was only after sex, or the fact that you slept with after not knowing him very long turned him off.
Four weeks really isn't long enough to get to know someone.
2007-01-31 12:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because that's just how some people are. He used you and now he's not interested. Find things to do that keep you away from home so that he knows you're staying busy. Invite friends over for dinner some night. He'll know that you've moved on and could care less. Oh, and btw, it was foolish of you to continue to have sex with him. If he's gone back to another woman, no telling how many others he's on got the side.
2016-05-24 00:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old do women have to get before they figure out that guys are much more into you before sex then after.
The wedding ring comes sooner too when the benefit of milk isn't free, if you know what I mean.
Wouldn't you like to turn back the clock.? Well you can't, but you can wind it up again and start all over and do it differently.
Good luck to you~~~~
2007-01-31 13:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key is he "seemed" so interested. His interests never changed, he just got what he was after and moved on. Men like like him thrive on the chase. Be glad you found that out now and weren't unlucky enough to actually get into a relationship with this guy. He would have just cheated on you.
2007-01-31 13:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously lied to you to get you to have sex with him. What a creep! Would you really want to be in a relationship with a guy who left his wife for another woman? He has a lot of growing up to do. You should stop all contact with him and tell him to not call you again. He is colder because he is using you and is cheating on his girlfriend.
2007-01-31 12:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he had only one intention and when he got what he wanted he lost interest, also he had a girlfriend and lied to u so he could get u in bed, so he may be embarrassed, he is just a player, cheated on his wife, and his girlfriend, aren't u glad u found out early about him? some guys loose interest fast after they get what they were after. he had only one intention, not nice to do to u, but never the less there are man out there like this, sometimes they are hard to spot especially if we don't know them that well.
2007-01-31 13:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WILL YOU READ MY ANSWER after so many of them.
This is where to many of us girls fall and then get hurt emotionally. This says that men don't understand how valuable we are. They dont understand how sensitive we are in our feelings.
This is a learning lesson for you. Next time, analyze him, test him, play hard to get, then you will sooner or later find out if he really wants an honest relationship with you or not.
It hurts to be used an object, they forget we have feeling and emotions like them.
There are good men out there, don't get me wrong!
~Christian guys, the Real ones.~
But, you have to search very cautiously, research on them to find proof on their true change of conduct.
Probably the following link will help you find more answers:
2007-01-31 13:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by liz777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how some people are. You should have gotten to know him a little better, and set it up to where you could meet this "friend" , you had the gut feeling but didn't follow it instead you asked him because you wanted to hear what you heard. Always trust your instincts. And never trust someone you just met.
2007-01-31 13:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are like this and some are not. Just learn from it. Don't jump so soon in the sack with them and get to know them a lot better. I'd have to go up to him when his gf is around and give him a big hug and say "are you still coming over later tonight?" (wink). Then say something like "so are you going to introduce me to your ole friend?" ;o)
2007-01-31 13:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 weeks isn't very long to know someone - and especially not long to invite them to live with you and to have sex with them. I think this guy was just interested in the sex and once he got it, he is now done. When you made a comment about a girl you thought was your girlfriend, he probably decided you're too possessive for him. It's best to just move on.
2007-01-31 13:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie,
God created men with a very complicated drive, its called "sex drive" and men in general do what ever it takes to do it. Now, there are men that have been raised by a very moral families, and there men that did not even have fathers and mothers around to give them the love that they deserve, so growin up, they are going to try to suck are the love they missed out on through SEX. I've learned this through my own life experience, but i've learned to control it through fearing God. Never cheated and hopefully never will. Unfortunately most cheating men , God does not exist.
I wish you the best moving on and finding the one love that will charesh you for ever and ever.
Sebastian
2007-01-31 12:57:28 · answer #11 · answered by bipyramus 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋