She is very shy,also.
2007-01-31 12:29:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
This is a much bigger question than we can answer in yahoo-answers. And its so very important that you get it right.
I strongly recommend that you go down to your library or bookstore and get a copy of Odd Girl Out, by Rachel Simmons. It will give you a much better understanding of the problem, and at the end there are a lot of practical suggestions.
Don't rely on just the little bit that we can tell you here.
2007-01-31 13:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by K ; 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let the proper authorities know what is going on. Bullying is UNACCEPTABLE! Set up an appointment with the principal, guidance counselor, and her teacher....all these parties must get involved. I know our school has a "no tolerance" for bullying.
I understand your daughter is shy and it would be very hard for her to stand up to the bullies but that is the best advice I can offer to her in the meantime. When I was 15, just started a new high school I had a heck of a time. With a particular girl in gym, she used to block my way and ask for the password. I tried walking around her, walking the other way she continued to follow me, push me and get in my face. Finally I had enough...one day when she put up her arm and asked me for the password I took her and shoved her as hard as I could into the lockers and told her "that's the password!" She never bothered me again!
I am not condoning hitting/pushing/shoving...just standing up for yourself..with words.
Below I listed a website for your daughter to visit. It explains how to deal with bullies.
Best of luck to both you and your daughter!
2007-01-31 20:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies pick onthe ones that cant fight back.You need to teach hersome assertive skills.You need to talk to the teachers and make them aware of how this is affecting your daughter.I am going through similar but my daughter is in year 7.Bullying is not easy to deal with.
2007-01-31 20:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about what is happening at school, and make sure self esteem (etc) isn't being permanently damaged. I would talk to the principal and councilors FOR SURE. There isn't much you can do to stop the bullying as a parent, but there is lots that a principal can do.
Follow up with your daughter, ask if anything has changed are they still bullying her? Did the principal actually DO anything? Things like that. If things haven't changed, storm into the principal's office and demand change. YOU are sending your child to that school, YOU are paying school fees and YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE SAFE AND FEEL SAFE. It is okay to get pissed right off at the principal if he doesn't change things (this is ofcourse AFTER you have already spoken with him/her the first time, give them a chance to change things).
Personally, I would also teach her how to stand up for herself. I realize that she is shy, but that doesn't mean its okay for her to get walked on. She needs to know how to verbally stand up for herself, as well as physically if she is getting bullied physically. (Eg. my sister got bullied because she was short, a taller boy kept leaning really hard on her shoulders, she got fed up one day and decked him in the gut as hard as she could. He was winded, but never EVER did that again. She had warned and warned and warned, and he didn't back off. Day after day.. she finally stood up for herself and it stopped. There was nothing wrong with that in my opinion.) I believe that every child should know how to defend themselves, and I also believe that evry child should know the difference between defending themselves, and being violent. There IS a difference, and they need to understand it BEFORE they learn anything about physical defence. However, this entire paragraph is purely opinion, and lots of people will disagree with it. I just think it is important, the same as all women should know how to defend themselves. Things like that are important.
That's about all you can do. Depending on how daring you are, you could attempt to confront the bully yourself, but I wouldn't reccommend it, his/her parents will get ticked and the principal will likely dismiss any of your concerns after that, but again, your kid, your choice. :)
Anyways, good luck with that. I hope it all works out for you and your daughter.
2007-01-31 21:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enrol her in tai chi or karate classes. Plus, it'll keep her fit, as opposed to staying indoors in fear.
Could she have a sleepover party with her real friends, maybe? They'll get to know her better, and maybe take her side more?
2007-01-31 20:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bullying is unnacceptable at all schools go with her to the pricipal or councelor to talk about it...they will fix things...
2007-01-31 20:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Luigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm change the school...or try to make her...like...normal...wearing normal clothes, having normal attitudes, make her cool!
2007-01-31 20:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by ashcroft83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋