Girls, does your husband let you lock the door when you go to the bathroom?

Question

My husband never lets me lock the door when I have to go to the bathroom. Normally, I don't mind but when I am doing "girly things" I feel really embarassed when he walks in on me. I guess I am just wondering if other women feel the same way. I think it is normal for guys to be this way but I don't understand why they can lock the door and we can't you know? *sigh*

Answer 1

He doesn't "let" you?

Sounds like you have more problems than just locking the door.

It's not normal.

For gods sake be a woman and lock the door if you want. This sounds controlling and immature.

Answer 2

There's something wrong with the statement that he never lets you lock the door, but I think it's been pounded to death already. It's your house as well, and there's no reason why you shouldn't get a little privacy and time to yourself - ESPECIALLY when you are doing as you said "girly things." My husband is a very private person and cannot stand having anyone walk in on him, at the same time, if he knows it's me in the bathroom, he'll walk by and jiggle the handle, just to let me know he's there and knows where I am, I suppose....I normally don't lock the door when it's just him and I in the house, I have no problems with needing privacy most of the time, I'm not modest at all, I guess too many years in band where there wasn't any. But there are moments, and no, I don't think it's normal for him to not allow you to lock the door, are there trust issues there in this? Personally, I think it's a bit strange for him to not "let" you lock the door - need to get that nipped in the bud! FOR your sake.

Answer 3

What do you mean your husband never "lets" you lock the door? Why do you need his approval, esp for something like using the bathroom and locking the door. Just lock the damn thing if you're uncomfortable and need your privacy. I don't know, my bf and I are pretty open about stuff like that. He doesn't really lock the door all the time nor does he close it all the way either. And I don't really care. I almost always close and lock the door, but if he knows i'm just peeing he has his ways of unlocking the knob anyway.. and I don't really care. It's your body and your privacy, you should be able to do whatever without having your husband or anybody else for that matter tell you otherwise.

Answer 4

What do you mean "let you"? I lock the door when it needs locking, but actually my husband will not open a closed bathroom door unless the house is on fire. We have an open door policy when peeing, showering, shaving, or brushing teeth. (When the kids are not home,) But if the kids are home we each lock the door because they sometimes forget, and open it. My husband and I both lock the bathroom door when "going #2" we have no desire to walk in on that. We occasionally shut the door just because. You should be able to lock the door when you want privacy.

Answer 5

Everyone basically already said what I had to say about this "let" business. I strongly, and I repeat STRONGLY advise you to stand up for yourself and take control here. Your husband sounds like a controlling/ abusive a**hole who has no respect for you and that's not NORMAL in anyway whatsoever. And the "girly things" that you feel embarrassed about... yeah I'm not sure how long you've been married but that embarrassment needs to be dropped a.s.a.p because you're going to have to appear as a normal human being sometime sooner or later. Quick trying to look cute. You're human. You have to do things. Take care of your business and drop the embarrassment. If your husband is mistreating you, which it seems like he's doing by barging in on you and not giving you the respect you deserve, then I think you two need a marriage counselor.

Answer 6

First of all "let you".. I'm not even going to start. You're grown and even if this is a marriage he doesn't own you and if you want to lock the bathroom door you should be able too without having anyone on your back. WTF. This is crazy. I'm assuming there's more to this than him not letting you lock the bathroom door. This is 2007. I would be very annoyed if my husband would ever dare to do that to me. He knows better.. You have to be strong and stand up for yourself and if you need privacy in the bathroom and obviously he doesn't seem to understand you need to have a serious talk with him.

Answer 7

We don't have locks on the bathroom door. I just tell my husband if I don't want him to come in and he never does. Maybe your husband is embarrassed as well when he does it. Just tell him "I need 5 in the bathroom" By the way how does he not let you. If your on the inside how can he stop you!!

Answer 8

i dont have husband now but i think a guy should give a woman some privacy atleast in the bathroom. And anyway, same rules should apply to all be it a guy or a girl.And it should not be the case of him 'letting you'.. you can decide you wanna lock and do the same.Ask him nicely, make him understand .. Good Luck.

Answer 9

That doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. You should be comfortable in front of your man, and he should respect your privacy. Does he think you are pleasing yourself or something. What could you do that he would have to worry about in the bathroom. He sounds insecure. Our bathroom is connected to our master bedroom and we never shut the door except when we shower, just to keep steam in though.

Answer 10

You think it's normal? That's like so far from normal it's funny. Why do you think it's normal and why does he care if you lock the door? Does he allow you to pick out your own clothes or where make-up?

To answer your question: yes, my husband allows me to lock the door when I go to the restroom.

Answer 11

My wife ALWAYS locks the door. I do not have a problem with it, understand WHY she wants the door locked.

When she was young and living in her parents house, they did not have a lock on the bathroom door. Her father would come in the bathroom, from time to time, while she, or her sister, was in the bathroom. Why? To see if they were "hiding a boy" in the bathroom and to REMIND them that they were living in HIS house and he had the RIGHT to "check on them" anytime he wanted. Even when they were asleep, he would come into their room, turn on the light, and look in the closet and under the beds (they both shared the same room up to age 18 when they both got married and moved out)..