This may vary from state to state...have no clue? Living in Kentucky. Just wondering if anyone knows...
If someone is going through the process of divorce and were to fall in love with someone else...what might happen if they were to live together before the divorce is final? There is a child through the ending marriage as well. The married couple has been separated for about 5 months and living separately already. The mother is the one who wants to move in with someone. The father is an alcoholic and has been and continues to be in lots of legal trouble. I only mention that because I assume this will be taken into consideration when the judge considers custody. I am not here to get people's opinion on if it is right or wrong to do this...only real facts about how the decision could negatively affect the mother considering the move in the divorce process.
2007-01-31 12:17:38 · 10 answers · asked by brown bag 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it depends really if she has a strong case with his legal trouble; (custody issues) and is pretty sure she's going to get the custody she wants then it should be ok; the judge may frown on this however. i personally did move in with my boyfriend the month my divorce came through; but i also didn't let anyone know this because you should definately keep your nose clean and not give any ammunition to the alcoholic father to use against you in court... just because it is still considered adultry; honestly in this case; better safe than sorry later on; if they are (the new couple) serious about being that kind of couple then it can wait.
2007-01-31 13:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not illegal but it could unnecessarily complicate all the divorce proceedings -custody and financial issues. Custody can be implicated for the obvious reasons. In some state, the income of the new partner may be taken into account for child support and alimony purposes! Do you really want to be linked with this new partner to the point that your financial status is jeopardized? The best advice is wait to move in with a new partner.
You didn't ask but here it is - you need to really focus on your child right now. The divorce will be hard - no matter what the faults of the other parent were. Don't immediately jump into another relationship. Put your child first and focus on what the child needs for the next long while.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 13:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has any legal contradictions in Pa but I didnt' bother to find out when I moved in with my boyfriend and I was still married at the time..
I personaly do not see anything wrong with it however yes I believe the judge will take into consideration the gentleman that the mother is living with when he decides custody however if what you say is true about the father I dont' think the mother will have a problem anyway ... i'd say go for it.. she deserves to be happy and as long as the boyfriend and child get along great that is great.. :)
2007-01-31 12:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Ky and i have no idea honestly. I wouldnt think that it would have an impact on the judge's decision. Its not his job to judge you about morals. However, you may want to ask a law student or a lawyer to be sure. I lived with another man before my divorce was final, but no children were involved and we were separated for almost a year before we started the divorce due to financial reasons.
Good luck to you and congrats on finding a good man. Best wishes for a much brighter future.
2007-01-31 12:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in before the divorce is final it a bad idea. It will give the soon to be ex a reason to drag it out longer. If the 2 people in question really love one another than there is no reason why they can not wait until the divorce is final. This way nothing can be said and they are free to do as they please.
2007-01-31 13:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Legally, you are still married and they can get you for cheating. If they are really being hard to get along with, then you are best not to move in with anyone. I just went through a divorce and believe me, you don't want to do that. BUT, if everything is mutual and all is good, then so be it. Just be careful.
2007-01-31 12:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by thailey76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are already living apart, in any state or province its perfectly legal to commit to another relationship, it won't hold up the divorce but when custody comes up they will have to look at both living arrangements of both parents, thats it. There is nothing illegal about continuing on with your life! Period.
2007-01-31 12:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should not move in with her lover because that will only give the ex ammuniton to not only divorce her but also to get the child...Right now she needs to be on her best behavior...Plus in the end it will be all worth it. Good luck
2007-01-31 12:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please consult with a divorce attorney in your state. It can vary from state to state. The fact that there is a child involved from the soon to be former marriage, that is why I request the appt. with an attorney. Take care.
2007-01-31 12:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us here in ALBERTA do it all the time , But I do not know if it work's out their so I do not think my answer will help you all that much.
2007-01-31 13:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋