He asks me how I feel about the fact that he didn't get a promotion because he didn't pass a test that I know he could have passed if he had studied a little bit harder. I don't want to come off as mean or nagging. I just want to motivate him.
2007-01-31 12:16:04 · 14 answers · asked by I love sushi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Simply tell him that when & if he wants to talk about it, you will listen when he's ready. Leave it at that. Don't talk about it otherwise & do not offer your opinions. This is about you being open & able to listen to him when he comes to you.
2007-01-31 12:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's OK and that if you can be of any assistance, to let you know (maybe help him study for the next test). Let him know that these things happen and there's always time again to get that promotion.
2007-01-31 20:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about not getting the promotion? If it was something he really wanted i think he would have done all he could to have made it happen. Mabe he is comfortable where he is in his career, mabe he was just going for it half hearted because he thought it was what you wanted and he did not want to let you down. Are you motivating or pushing?
2007-01-31 20:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He needs encouragement from you. Tell him you love him, promotion or not. There will be other opportunities. Tell him how smart he is & that you were surprised to hear he didn't pass. Make him feel strong & he'll solve his problem on his own. Let him figure out what he did wrong.
2007-01-31 21:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by aussie_gurl118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to keep trying, study a little harder, and maybe next time it will work out.
2007-01-31 20:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what would he say if it was a kid that could of passed a test but didn't because lack of studying for it? Let him answer that.
2007-01-31 20:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to him how you are there for him if you need him, and maybe next time he'll get it, with a little more studying, and maybe you could help.
2007-01-31 20:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by beauty1026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about offering to help him study. At least this way...you can schedule study times with him so that you can keep on track.
2007-01-31 20:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you believe in him and you know he is capable of doing it. Offer to help him study next time.
2007-01-31 20:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you are disappointed for him-----dont say "you should have studied more" he already knows this---tell him next time you will pass, then encourage him to put the remote down and read. good luck
2007-01-31 20:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋