Baby is almost 9 months. We do it like twice a month. I initiate always. He says he is still attracted to me, but he sure doesn't act like it. I had a c-section, so it's not the baby coming out thing? And yes, things have been stressful, but not so bad. I wanna do it. Why doesn't he? What can I do?
2007-01-31 12:05:16 · 10 answers · asked by JR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a reason he is avoiding sex, even if he doesn't realize it. Somehow you've got to figure out the reason. The best thing would be for him to seek counseling about it, but most guys won't agree to that. If he won't, then try talking to him yourself. The main thing to remember is be calm and try to not show him how upset you may be over his answers. Explain to him that you realize there's a problem and that you are worried about it and you want to get to the bottom of it.
There are several possible reasons. It could be that before the baby, he saw you as this sexy woman, but now he's seeing you as a mother. He could be afraid of you getting pregnant again. He could be worried that the baby will wake up if you make too much noise. Maybe he's just stressed out over the idea of having a baby to support and be responsible for. Whatever his reason may be, it's important to keep the communication open between the two of you.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 18:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and be honest with him.I have heard about this happening with a lot of guys. Its odd but does happen..Maybe he is afraid he will hurt you . since you had a c section or maybe he doesnt like sharing time with the baby. Let someone else keep the baby over night try a romantic dinner and then seduce him.He will come around but having a baby is a major change from being single with you so maybe its that ..good luck
2007-01-31 13:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey girl, after having a baby no wonder u want it now more than ever! there's nothing hotter than a woman who just had a baby so let him know it's him or he'll be sorry b/c you'll go and meet other guys which is sooo possible. maybe this will be a wake up call for him. it could be a stage, then let him be. but if his behavior altogether is rapidly changing kick him to the curve tell him u don't need his money all u need is a hard long stick that works aroun ur clock.
2007-01-31 12:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by la virgen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes its stress he has an extra mouth to feed, stress for men can be a sex depressant but could be other things sit down an talk to him and ask if there is a problem
2007-01-31 12:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem, except I just had a baby 3months ago. I first thought it had something to do with me getting pregnant again, but then I started my birth control pills and nothing changed.
2007-01-31 12:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by beauty1026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is normal. he just thinks that with constant sex the probabilities of having another baby goes up. and he doesnt want that for you. you need to heal so just give him some time. talk to him, try and tease him, get naughty now and then. make him want you. leave him wanting more that way he'll come to you. is the best you have. got to him get really sexy and drive him wild. make him want more, and youll see he will go to your arms.....and other places;) good luck and believe in your sexiness and your ability to turn any man on and drive him wild. youll see he'll come to you without thinking it twice.
2007-01-31 12:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing with my wife. I was fine after about 2 months. I don't know why but I did. Sorry , but he will come around.
2007-01-31 12:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by SLY ONE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact those like yourself at SWAGE. We understand what it is like to have your spouse go off of sex. It's horrible and we know.
2007-01-31 12:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be afraid that you will get pregnant again. You really need to ask him to be honest and explain himself. Maybe he is having an affair.
2007-01-31 12:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he is affraid you'll get pregnant again too soon
2007-02-04 04:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋