I want to live with my dad!!!! HELP!?

Question

my parents divorced when i was 8 and my dad lives about 40 mins away. i see him on weekends and me and sister want to live with him. my mom and step dad are insane. they are always yelling at us, saying were terrible and when we break something or accidently lose something were grounded or punished or something.

they are really mean and dont care about our feelings. im 15 and my sister is 16. we want to live with my dad but there are a few problems:

1. i cant leave my friends at school. they are the only reason why i can make it through a day of yelling and critisism from my mom and stepdad. since my sister cant drive yet and my dad cant drive us to school every morning because he has to work, what do we do??? we cant change schools no matter what...is the bus even an option???

if my sis does get her license though, she doesnt have a car there. my mom wont let her take the car she was gonna get.

thats the only issue. what do i do??!! i cant live here anymore!!!

Answer 1

Talk to your dad & see if he can come up with a solution. Good luck.

Answer 2

In most states after the age of 13 you can get a lawyer to represent you in custody proceeding between your Mom and Dad. At 16 your sister can just go live where she wants.

But the first thing you should do is get your Dad and his lawyer (not by himself) to talk to your mom and her lawyer and see if they can work it out amicably. Have you spoken to your father at all yet?

Depending on where you live the Bus is surely an option.

BTW and not to sound like an old man (even though I am one) the friends you find so important now that you cant live without will fade when you get into college and out into the real world so I would not base where I want to live on friends, they come and go. Your Dad and your mom are forever

Answer 3

I left my crazy mother at 11. I had no sis, though, no friends, because I always had to be home and she taught me to be a recluse- oh no, I had one friend, whom I drove nuts with my constant crying.
Yes.
So, you are lucky to have her, first of all.
Your dad have you on his insurance?
Get a therapist to help you deal, first.
To back you up in court, when the time comes, if the time comes.
This person might be able to convince your folks to come in and chat, because they obviously are having a hard time of life too right now.
You see, I've been abused, and I've been abusive, and I've STOPPED all on my own.
And then found out a hormone disorder was driving me nuts, years later.
Anyway, I knew that the screaming banshee Ihad become was not who I felt I was, or wanted to be. And I would scream at my son not to blame himself, how odd is that, when I was upset?
But most parents who flip won't tell you how badly they feel...
Anyway, I got to my dad and step-mom's, and they totally ignoredme, didn't let me out of the house, and spent all of their time and moeny on trying (unsuccessfully) to adopt a baby when they couldn't have their own. My crazy mother at least knew I was there.
Grass is greener, honey.
Get help, get help, get help- and go to authorities if need be. Obviously, don't do anything stupid for attention- just push n your guidance counselor, etc.
And if all else fails, you have your sister.
Let nothing come between you!

Answer 4

My father passed away when I was only 18 years old. That was many years ago. I have managed to live without his help but thank God I had my mother. She was there to help support me emotionally when I was having hard times dealing with my children's father. She was always there to help me up when I needed her. She passed away a little over a year ago. It can be difficult at times cuz she isn't around to listen to my woes & delima's of everyday life. If you have parents appreciate while they are around. Because when they are gone they're not coming back. & No one can fill the position of a parent.

Answer 5

Well quite frankly, you should be thankful to have a roof over your head and a mother and stepfather that care enough to yell at you. Drama is NOT a food group, contrary to the beliefs of most kids your age. Get over it. You can get out when you're 18 if you still have a problem with it.

Answer 6

It sounds like your mother and step dad have issues. But I bet they really do love you, and if you can stick it out and try to get along with them first, believe it or not that would be best for you. Sorry but since your father has reasons that it wouldn't work out for you to live with him. Honestly he must not want you to live with him, even though I am sure he loves you too. If I was in his situation and my kids wanted to live with me, I would do everything in my power to make it happen. Work on getting along where you are at, instead of arguing with your mom and step dad, try humoring them, which means agree with them even when you don't mean it, if it is nothing important. It doesn't mean that you still don't have your own opinions, it just helps to have peace in your home, which it sounds like you would like to have. I wasn't as nice to my oldest daughter as I wish I would have been, and she moved out and did a bunch of stuff that she regrets now that she is older. I wish she could have made better choices despite my poor parenting. Please despite you mom and step dad's poor parenting skills, do your best to rise above it and be a good person, so that you can have less regrets. It is about you and your life and making it the best you can with the fewest mistakes.

Answer 7

since you are not sixteen you can't decide for yourself yet. Your sister can legally but you will have to wait a year to really do anything.

Answer 8

although i dont know the solution to your problem, you should be punished when you break/lose something. its called being responsible for your actions.