my parents divorced when i was 8 and my dad lives about 40 mins away. i see him on weekends and me and sister want to live with him. my mom and step dad are insane. they are always yelling at us, saying were terrible and when we break something or accidently lose something were grounded or punished or something.
they are really mean and dont care about our feelings. im 15 and my sister is 16. we want to live with my dad but there are a few problems:
1. i cant leave my friends at school. they are the only reason why i can make it through a day of yelling and critisism from my mom and stepdad. since my sister cant drive yet and my dad cant drive us to school every morning because he has to work, what do we do??? we cant change schools no matter what...is the bus even an option???
if my sis does get her license though, she doesnt have a car there. my mom wont let her take the car she was gonna get.
thats the only issue. what do i do??!! i cant live here anymore!!!
2007-01-31 11:35:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
i want to take a bus
but there are no busses at 6 am that go to oak park!!!
i need to get to school by 7!!!
2007-01-31 11:47:11 · update #1
i want to take a bus
but there are no busses at 6 am that go to oak park!!!
i need to get to school by 7!!!
2007-01-31 11:47:18 · update #2
Get your priorities straight. What's more important, safety and sanity or a car? Also, make sure you are not making this decision based on the fact that you disagree with some rules. Dads have rules, too. If you really feel strongly about it, you need to even make sure your Dad would consider it and will the court allow it and let your mom down easy, it will be very hard on he.r
2007-01-31 11:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Unemployed MBA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a dad, and stepdad, and mental health practitioner / counselor with 20+ years experience, now retired, I've got some tips for you.
1) Some States allow you to decide where you want to live at a much earlier age than 15. Texas, for example, allows the child to choose at 12 or even 11 years of age, so, just know that.
2) As much as your friends mean to you, and I can understand that, you should realize you can always make new friends, but you can't make new moms and stepdads. They're always going to be the same two people.
3) Your sister is of age to get a driver's license, at least here in Texas, and you are too, due to "hardship" if you can prove that easy situation, so . . ., all you need is access to a vehicle. And school busses are always an option.
4) As much as I hate to bring the State into it all, you are still of age and circumstance where you can go to your child welfare office and talk to them about it all. Please, for your sake as well as others, DO NOT EXAGGERATE YOUR SITUATION!! The welfare people love to help kids, but if they feel that you're exaggerating your story just to get something extra, you'll really be in a legal as well as family and personal mess. So, BE HONEST above all.
5) Once you've started the ball rolling in any direction I've stated above, or others that I haven't addressed here, BE PATIENT. As the old saying goes, "Rome wasn't built in a day", and even though you may not give a damnn about Rome, or how long it took to build it, patience, and a bit of persistence, are the hallmarks of successful "campaigns" for things we want.
I hope I've been of some help to you. God Bless you.
2007-01-31 11:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always take a bus to school like public transit or something. And also just because you change schools doesn't mean you will lose your friends. Talk to your dad more about your options on that. The wounds from your mom and step dad can last well into adulthood and leave terrible emotional scars. You need to get out of that situation even if it means changing schools
2007-01-31 11:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by kmdanie1279 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My father passed away when I was only 18 years old. That was many years ago. I have managed to live without his help but thank God I had my mother. She was there to help support me emotionally when I was having hard times dealing with my children's father. She was always there to help me up when I needed her. She passed away a little over a year ago. It can be difficult at times cuz she isn't around to listen to my woes & delima's of everyday life. If you have parents appreciate while they are around. Because when they are gone they're not coming back. & No one can fill the position of a parent.
2016-05-24 00:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay because you have friends. Tell your friends everything that is going on at home, and everything that is going on inside of you. The real value of life, is being with those we care about, and who care about us.
2007-01-31 12:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by knowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanted to live with your dad, you wouldn't mind having to wake up earlier to take the bus.
As is, grow up.
2007-01-31 11:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a very nice person tiffany. Wishing death upon someone is a very nasty and evil thing to do. Go to your room and think about what you have done.
P.S. I am sorry about your family situation
2007-01-31 12:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by alias_47 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can ALWAYS make new friends and besides that the ones you have now are not the ones you will have in two years.
2007-01-31 11:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by katiej47 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ACT RIGHT...
2007-01-31 11:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by sQuIdWeEzY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋