She and I go to the same school and I try to be nice and speak to her everytime I see her but I was just wondering...do I have to be her friend because I go with her bro? She acts like she doesn't wanna be my friend for real...she speaks to me and everything but...she's has her group of people she hang with and stuff...what do you think?
2007-01-31 11:30:32 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's always good to be at least on speaking terms, but you're going out with her brother, not her! therefore, it's probably cool if you're just friendly acquaintances.
2007-01-31 11:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by girl. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you said in your details section is a perfectly fine way to handle the situation. be nice and cordial to each other but you don't have to be friends. Might make the situation wierd anyway if they were to breakup and you were now best friends. Other than caring about her because your brother cares for her, keep your emotions with her to a minimal.
Learning this skill now will help you years from now when you and your brother get married. Too many in-laws 'hate' each other. There is no need to hate if you know how to be polite and respectful to each other.
2007-01-31 19:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be nice to her but there's no reason why you should be friends, in fact it's probably better that you just stay on casual speaking terms. If you have an ugly breakup with him, then she's probably going to be mad at you, or else you'll find yourself whining to her about how awful he was and that's just never a good thing. If you're not friends, it won't be any big deal.
I'd just stay nice to her but stay at arm's length too.
2007-01-31 19:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think with just be friendly to her and saying hi should be enough.Sometimes we try so hard to impress our boyfriends relatives we get on their nerves.Were you friends with her before if so just keep it the same and if not, just be nice and cordial.Don't push it, after all it's your boyfriend that you want to like you not his sister, good luck.
2007-01-31 19:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you two need to be friends is if your married and have kids.I'm not saying be mean or put up with crap but being civial dosen't hurt you never know where this is going.
2007-01-31 19:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by jean l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you do need to keep speaking to her. if she wants to be your friend she will let you know, but it doesn't sound like she does.
2007-01-31 19:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by M.E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because she is not the one you are dating its her brother that your dating but you do have to be nice to her and you do have to respect her but besides that you do NOT have to be her friend but if it ever comes up as if you want to be her friend or she wants to be yours then go ahead and do it but if you don't want to you DON'T have to.
2007-01-31 20:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be nice to her, but as far as friends go I would say no you don't have to. My husbands sister and I talk when we have to, but friends...no.
2007-01-31 19:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by charliesangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be her friend and you don't think she wants to be yours, there really is no point to a friendship... even if she is your boyfriends sister!
2007-01-31 19:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by Holly Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt seem to want to be friends with u, u don't have to be friends with her. just because shes ur boyfriends sis doesn't mean that u have to be best friends with her.
2007-01-31 19:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋