This guy, that i just met this year, was going out with one of my friends for about a month, they broke up a month ago-and I spent the day they broke up comforting him and telling him that he'll be okay, and that she wasn't *the one*. So now a month later, he tells me who he likes and I tell him who I like, except for one person(him)And I left him a message saying "what would you do, if i lied, and I do like you". and then he figured out it was me.. and then he asked me how long and to tell you the truth.. i've liked him for like 2 months.. but the thing is after he told me who he liked, he also told me that one of the liked him back.. I'm just so confused right now along with feeling really bad.Because I dont want to ruin the friendship that we have and I told him that what ever he choses to do I'll support him.It scares me because he is one guy that I can go to, to talk about anything and im normaly really shy.. so this is the first guy I've ever told I liked him...What Should I Do?
2007-01-31 11:29:02 · 9 answers · asked by LookTowardsYesterday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
beats me............
2007-01-31 11:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, the best thing you can do in this situation is sit down and talk to him about your feelings face to face. I know you would undoubtedly be very nervous about such a thing, but in all honesty, don't you think you'd feel better after getting all this off your chest?
I don't imagine that mulling over this, and keeping all this bottled up inside can be good for you, nor a very pleasant experience. I know what it's like to constantly have something like this on your mind, pulling at your head and heart, really messing you up inside.
If you actually like him, tell him so. Yet at the same time, if you truly are his friend, let him know that even if he were to choose someone else, that you'll remain his friend, and will always be there for him should he need you to be.
Having your friendship break apart because of something like this is a horrible thing, and is something you won't soon heal from. Not completely, anyway.
2007-01-31 19:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by troubledtvguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you as a friend he does not have feeling for you the same way that you have. From what you said he likes another girl and he likes and she likes him too. I am sorry but if you make a big deal over this u guys won't be friends any more! One day he might think about you being a girl friend though so always be there for him! You have to be happy for him and find a new crush! Keep him as a friend and never again mention to him I like you other wise you will mess things up!
2007-01-31 19:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate it when this happens to me but it does (and more often than i'd like to admit from both your and his position). It's good that ur supportive, but it might make him see you as desperate if you keep saying how supportive you are. Flirt a little and if you're really upset cry on his shoulder. It breaks any guy's heart and if he ever had any feelings for you they will surface at that moment. Sounds like you're in love, so, Congrats! and Sorry. Love sucks sometimes but reallize that you're not *the one* for him if he says no, go and cry on som1 elses shoulder (on a girls cuz it will most likely have a less provocative affect). Good luck, this breaks my heart every time it happens (even to other people).
P.S. Tell me what happens!. I'll pray for u.
2007-01-31 19:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by that guy with the face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and liking r 2 diff things. You may like as many guy as u want and be abled to talk to all of them. Love is a 2 way relationship and it must be felt by both of you. Your case is one sided and he has not expressed his likings for u. Because you hv expressed ur feelings, he might be 'obligated' to ur feelings. This type of likings may not last and may hurts you more later. Saying you would support his decision makes not make things better.
2007-01-31 19:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u real want a friend to just be a friend, don't ask him out. but if u don't think that anything will change if u go out with him, and that he'll still be the same, caring friend, u should ask him. do what ur heart tells u. he might feel the same way about u. i hope that made sense.
2007-01-31 19:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come clean, actually, id give him exactly wut u wrote and tell him that u are confused. he can help, trust a stranger that loves life, and a friend that loves u.
candlejack
2007-01-31 19:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by ace_of_dimonds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait, until he decides
2007-01-31 19:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him your first kiss
2007-01-31 19:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by k-joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋