I'm fresh out of college, I don't have a job yet, no money saved up I don't believe in abortion, but without the father's help I have no idea how I can do this :-( What would you do?
2007-01-31 11:19:55 · 44 answers · asked by SoAlone81 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You will find a way. If you do not want an abortion, don't get one. Your father should not be pressuring you to make such a life decision. He's freaking out because he had a plan for you. Well, it's not his plan. When he meets his grandchild. he will melt. Stay strong and be confident. Take folic acid!!
2007-01-31 11:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by -- 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Leave him and get child support. Make him realize that he had sex with you knowing the is always a risk for pregnancy, therefore he needs to be a man and step up. As far as abortion don't have an abortion because of him. Thats just crazy. Let me ask you a question. If you were to have an abortion how would you feel everyday for the rest of your life? How would you explain it to your future children? People that have abortions have a lifetime of regret, unless they are just heartless. They have a video that shows a person having an abortion done as they watch it on ultrasound. It is called silent scream. Before you even think of an abortion watch that. If you have no other options and you must not keep the baby then give it up for adoption. There are many couples that can't have children that would make great parents. I am 27 weeks pregnant and if my husband would tell me to abort the baby I would laugh at him because I could careless what the he thinks, I would keep my child. Then I would fight for child support. The only people you must worry about it yourself and your baby.
2007-01-31 11:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by EMT_B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well an abortion is a serious thing you should think about your life that you and the baby's father would be like. If the father doesn't support you go to the next best people in your life like your parents. If they don't support you all you could do is put the child in adoption. Why? Well you will know that the baby will be someone in the future for example be the next lawyer, mayor league baseball player, etc. Abortion is like killing someone and who knows he might have better parents that would love to have a child in their lives and will dedicated their time and their all to make this child happy in life.My friend also had the same situation the boyfriend almost left her but got help from her parents she finish school, had a job that was able to raise the child with. Who knows if that baby's father won't take your decision serious well tell him to leave or to support you all the way. Good luck with your decision
2007-01-31 11:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so you obviously need to make some desicions. You realize that you dont have the money or the time to devote to this child while being a single mom (since the father doesnt want to be one, which is his choice) So now its up to you. If you dont believe in abortion (then great thats your choice) I dont think that you would have even brought it up as an option in your question. First things first, If you carry this baby to term for the 9 months will you once you see it, be able to give it to someone else to raise ( knowing that they would make a stable home for it) or would you then feel like you couldnt because of all the bonding done while you were pregnant? If you keep it and your single there will be alot of struggling to make everything work, there are plenty of people out there that do it though, but do you truly want to make that sacrifice?? As for the abortion issue, dont make a desicion on that to quickly as easy at it may seem in the moment you will end up dealing with it for years if not the rest of your life after the fact.
Good luck with your desicion.
2007-01-31 11:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what YOU feel right. You will be the one that has to deal with this and I bet if you have an abortion, you'll regret it. DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION TO MAKE A GUY HAPPY. He'll tell you this way you can be together and then dump you soon after and you'll have a broken heart a baby who's killed. If nothing else, consider placing your baby for adoption.
I know you said that you are only 25, I am 25 too and the mom of 4 great kids. I had my son at 16!!! YOU CAN DO IT! There's govt assistance if nothing else. You'll get a job. Please go to a crisis pregnancy center . There's no question that is a baby, complete and whole. http://www.cpclink.com .
2007-01-31 12:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man is worth the life of your child. It's not your baby's fault that your boyfriend is being a selfish jerk. Your baby is totally innocent in all of this and deserves your love and protection. Please don't let anyone hurt her. Her heart started beating just three weeks after conception. You need to be strong and do the right thing. You will NEVER regret it.
Your boyfriend may come around later, but either way, you will find out what kind of a man he really is. Right now, he is not showing love to you or his child. Do keep in mind that he will be legally responsible for child support regardless of his feelings about the baby.
There is a lot of help available for you. If you go to a pregnancy care center in your area, they can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or by visiting:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
There is also an organization which provides support specifically for pregnant college and career women. This is their website:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
Please take a look at this information as well. It will help you be strong and do the right thing:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
You and your beautiful baby are going to be just fine. You can do this!
2007-02-04 05:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you believe is right. i don't believe in abortion either so i know i could never do anything like that. the father is just gonna have to deal with it. if he didn't want a child he shouldn't have had sex in the first place. if you don't think you can handle a baby right now there is always the better alternitive to abortion and that is giving the baby up for adoption. there are a lot of people out there that can't have children that are willing to adopt just to be able to love and raise someone else's child as their own. give your baby a chance at life. that's what every baby deserves. i wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-31 11:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is all up to YOU hun I would NEVER do the abortion there are 1000's of people out there that wants kids that can not for some reason or another. Although you CAN do it on your own with out the father I use to think the same thing when I got married at a early age and had a 1 year old at 18. Then I had to raise my second child as well on my own until I met my husband today. I am VERY PROUD of my self it takes alot to raise a child I agree although there ARE jobs that are willing to work with you. BEST WISHES
2007-01-31 11:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe in abortions either and I dont think you should do it. If you want to keep the baby than keep it but if you dont please dont abord it, give it up for adoption. But if you do decide to keep the baby than you need to start looking for a job, and once you get a job start saving money. You still have time before the baby will be born to save a little money or you can ask a friend, parents to help you out until you get on your feet. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-31 12:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by bettyboop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body - if you don't want to have an abortion, then don't! Since you have a college degree, it shouldn't be too hard to find a job (contact your school's career office or alumni association for help), so you'll be ok in the end. You'll probably have some struggles in the beginning, but you'll be ok. Even if the father doesn't want the child, he's still financially responsible for it (i.e., child support). Again, it's YOUR body, YOUR decision.
2007-01-31 11:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by kris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in abortion, as a rule. Incest, rape, injury to mother or child, debilitating disability, and serious things of these natures could be considered for an abortion.
Have you any friends or family who could help you during this time? How about your state welfare, AFDC, food stamps, Medicaid, etc. And what about allowing the child to be adopted? At 25, you should be able to make this decision ....how close are you to the father? Do you plan on him being in your life? I don't believe this decision will be as easy for you as it appears to be for the father.
Take MUCH better care to not get pregnant again until you are more equipped. I wish you peace, dear one.
2007-01-31 11:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋