I have a bad past that I wanted to forget (i.e. bad things I've done, some punished and/or discovered, some not), and this girl has made me forget about it all and deal with the present by getting me, probably unknowingly, to think of her. I love her, but she doesn't love me so now she acts like we don't even know each other since I gave her a big hint. I don't hate her for not loving me, although I tried to but couldn't. Should I thank her for bringing me out of crying over spilled milk? I just wanted to see people's opinions.
2007-01-31 11:13:00 · 9 answers · asked by Spectator 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You should be thankful, although it might turn out to be just as difficult to think of her and the present than to dwell on the past. Unrequited love is a really hard thing to go through.
2007-01-31 11:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kahlen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely!! If someone was able to help you stop living in or blaming things on your past you are way ahead of the game!! I have known people in their late 30's that could not let go of The Blaming Game or The Shame Game!! You will have to wait for another girl who is interested in you the way you will be with her in return. But you are still way ahead of so many others. Personally, I would thank her, because she did you a big favor!! Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-01-31 11:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thankful, and that is enough, but if you want to you can just tell her that even though she doesn't 'like you' in the way you 'like her' that because she is such a 'good influence' you've learned to stop 'crying over spilled milk' and live more in the now with a good future to look forward to. She'll definitely like hearing that, and it may also help her to see you with 'different eyes.'
2007-01-31 12:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. It is always OK to thank someone for help. If she doesn't love you, that is up to her so I would try to get myself "straight". There are a lot of girls out there and who ever said it was easy to find the one that's right for you.
Good Luck,
Bugs
2007-01-31 11:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by bugs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, Notice Rev 4:11.
2007-01-31 11:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by itsmissjackson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell her. The nicest thing that anyone has ever told me was that I had a positive influence on their life. A thank you will not go unnoticed.
2007-01-31 11:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her, kindly, that she has been a good influence on you. As you move on with your life, look for other good influences. You'll come to think of this girl as a milestone on your road to a better life.
2007-01-31 11:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot think of one possible reason that you should not be thankful. If you had continued on your same route--the outcome would not be good. Maybe it just was not ment to be--who knows but good luck in your future.
2007-01-31 11:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so much you only changed your focus, you need to learn how to refocus on your own, to rely on some one or some thing never works , as they or it can disappear, as you just learned
2007-01-31 11:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋