I am confused A cowerker of mine has bin with us for 2 mounths,When I first met her my defences were up,I was conviced she would not get under my skin.Sints I am required to take directions from her I tried to do as she asked, but for some reson she felt she had to show me some affection as she made her requests. She would poot her hand on my sholder and then run it down my back.She began to do this evan when nothing was being asked of me.Soon I found myself not being abel to spend a day without thinking of her.When I hinted my feilings to the guys at work, they laughed and told me she was a Lesbean. My love for her did not change.A very buch frend of hers showed up at work yestrday.Can this be a pretenc she is pooting on? And if so how can I let her know I am not intrested in her as my lover or sex mate? By the way I am 50, she is 20'ish. No I am not a stalker and I would like her to know that.Sorry for the bad speling and the bad gramer.
2007-01-31 11:02:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well I think that you need to assess and differentiate between actual LOVE and infatuation/lust. Perhaps you are not really feeling LOVE for this co-worker but a surface attraction? Once you figure out how you feel about your co-worker, I suggest that you address it with her. Ask her out for coffee or to lunch... just to see what she is like out of the work-place. (I do say, however, that the work-place is no place for romance -- be prepared for this to cost you your job. Not that it would, necessarily but, it is prudent to be aware that it could happen). Good luck.
2007-01-31 11:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shibi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
VERY bad idea to date someone at work, you should know this by now. On the other hand, if you don't mind getting a new job, go for it. Maybe there is love in the air, you'll never know unless your try. If she turns you down, or laughs in your face, threaten her with sexual harassment (that is actually what it is). She will not be laughing at you long, and may even respect you more as an employee.
2007-01-31 11:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to be her friend by merely acting like just a friend. If she tries to make a move on you then that is the time to tell her that you just want to be her friend. She might feel safe with you because you are older and feels free to touch you affectionately.
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2007-01-31 11:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by kana121569 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not let her poot on you anymore. Tell her straight up that you are not into Lesbeans you want morebeans. But maybe if she had Lesbeans then she would not poot as much.
2007-01-31 11:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rickey W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say what is going on, but if she's touching you like that at work, that's sexual harassment. Tell her you aren't comfortable with her touching you like that at work, or anywhere, that should get the point across. If it continues, I'd report her to a supervisor.
2007-01-31 11:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has to be professional at all times while at work. The way she is behaving is not the proper one.
She should avoid these kinds of "sweetness", since you could report this as harrassment.
2007-01-31 11:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by piojita_75 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... I would just let it go. Try not to think about her. From what you said she probably is a lesbian. She might have just been putting her hand on your back as a friendly gesture. I wouldnt think to much into it.
2007-01-31 11:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by iloveyou<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about it. Tell her that what she is doing is making you uncomfortable. She may not even realize that she is doing it. It may be just a bad habit that she has. Nonetheless, talk to her about it. She can't stop doing something that bothers you if she doesn't know it bothers you.
2007-01-31 11:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyCat49 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your co-worker. selection one reason to no longer pursue it. If she is telling human beings she is a lesbian, she probable would not want any male interest. Take that as a clue, and drop it.
2016-11-23 18:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never know unless you say something. You should tell her you have feelings for her, and if she does not have the same feelings, to not to touch you.
2007-01-31 11:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋