Please help!!!!?

Question

There is this friend who is really mean to me sometimes and she doesn't think before she says stuff. We are going to different schools next year and she is making a huge deal out of it. For example she says, " Why are you going to a different school then me ?" and " Your just forgetting about friends." I've told my older cousin but she just said that she dosen't think that she sounds like a really friend. And if I try to stand up for myself, she gets all mad and gossips about me until I have to say sorry. She only really thinks about herself. How do I stand up to her but still keep are friendship?

Answer 1

Your cousin is right, she doesn't really sound like a friend. She sounds like a bully. She gossips about you? What kind of friend is that. You can not keep her friendship. I do not want you to put yourself in a friendship when you are being controlled over. You are an independent and special individual. No one can make you unhappy without your consent! She isn't worth your friendship. And you know what else, I think she needs you more than you need her. Get yourself a healthy friendly relationship that doesn't involve the same situations as this one. You're giving her everything she wants to make her the "queen bee" so to speak. She gossips about you? Heres what you do - ignore it. If someone comes up and says "is it true that..." bla bla bla bla. Simply say no it isn't and it's a dirty rumor. Thank God you guys are going to different schools. Make new friends!

Answer 2

I've sort of gone through this myself and it took me years to understand. Sometimes when you're being separated from a person you like you try to be mad at them thinking that if you're mad the separation will hurt less. It sounds like your friend may be handling the idea of you two going to different schools in this manner. There's not an easy way to fix this. You can just let the friendship go and stop trying to fix things up, or you can keep fixing things up until the end of this school year, or you can try to keep things going even after the change. Only you know how good a friend this person really is and what level you want to commit to.

Answer 3

A friend is someone who cares for you and doesn't make demands and who wouldn't say anything bad about you whether shes mad at you or not.Does that sound like this 'friend' to you? She needs to do a lot of growing up and you are better to be going to this other school and start making some real friends. Real friends won't hurt you. If you say anything to her she, gets mad and gossips so don't speak to her at all and don't say anything about her to others just ignore her and keep a low profile till you go to the new school. She sounds very silly and insecure and she is bullying you,don't give her any ammunition. You don't owe her any explanations or anything else and don't let others try to goad you just for the sake of causing trouble. This is a nasty faze some young people go through. I wish you good luck and lovely new friends at your new school soon.

Answer 4

You should just let the friendship fade out when you go to different schools. She isn''t healthy for you. She also sounds as though she is jealous of you.

Answer 5

I'm not sure you can stand up to her and still keep your friendship. It's not just that she doesn't think; it's that she doesn't care how you feel. So don't worry about how she feels. Spend more time with other people.

Answer 6

Maybe the friendship is not worth it, she sounds like she is insecure and maybe jealous. It might work trying to stay away from her for a day and let her come to you which in most cases they will. Good luck!!!!!

Answer 7

u shouldnt stay freinds with her. it isnt your fault that ur going to a different skool is it? no. so just say things that u mean 2 her and maybe she will try to be a little nicer.