Already have sleep issues at 3 months!! Help!!?

Question

I have a 3 month old daughter, she sleeps great when Im holding her or sleeping next to her. My husband is in the military and its home as often as I would like, so nothing in the house gets done. At 8 I get her ready for bed, bath and some play time then lights out in the family bed where she eats then falls asleep. She usually only wakes up once a night then at 8 or 9 in the morning. But at night if I get up, she wakes up screaming. I cannot leave her when she is sleeping, or she will take a 15 minute nap. I have tried a few times to put her in a crib in her own bed. I feed her, rock her until she is asleep then I put her in her crib, moments later she is awake and screaming. I go in 5 mins, put in her paci, then 10 mins later hten 15... we do this for 2 hours until she is finally asleep... for her to take a 15 min nap... she is up again, we do the whole process again for only 15 more minutes of sleep... Im exausted and not sure what to do... is it too early to try to move her? HELP!

Answer 1

I can only say what helped for me, When my oldest was like this soeone told me to hold him wrapped in his blanket, and no skin to skin contact. When he fell asleep put him in the crib still wrapped in the blanket. After a week or 2 he was sleeping through the night. (however he was very attatched to his blanket until about 9 years old).

Answer 2

I know how that feels because I went through the same thing with my little girl.

The best thing I ever did was when my mom told me to get a shirt that I had on all day and if there's no stains or anything like that on it put it down on the baby's bed like as if it was a bed sheet. Then if you have a heat pad that you can warm up in the microwave warm it up for about a minute then put in the baby's crib on your shirt and put her blanket over it so that your baby will think she still with you and she wont be going from a nice warm spot to a cold bed.
And when you give your baby a bath they have this bedtime bath by Johnson and Johnson that might help her a little also.

And if I may ask do you have one of those womb bears if not you might want to look into one of those they sound just like the moms womb and I say my little girl is 20 months old and it still to this day helps her go to sleep.

Answer 3

I am all for the family bed, having done it myself. However, I totally understand the need for some privacy and space every once in a while too!

Try warming a polar fleece blanket in the dryer to see if it's the warmth she's missing.

Try getting one of those teddy bears that play a heartbeat/ womb sound.

Try getting one of the bouncy cloth seats that has a vibration thing in it. That can help kids sleep.

Also, and my favorite suggestion... See if she'll fall asleep in one of those motorized battery operated swings. The motion might fool her into thinking she is being walked.

Another thing to try: though this will keep her on you : Get a Baby Sling. It spreads the weight over your back and makes your baby very easy to carry. You can carry them in a variety of positions, sleeping or awake. You can discreetly breastfeed in public. It's MUCH more comfortable than any other carrier out there and MUCH easier to lay the baby down than those back pack type things.


Another suggestion. If you are feeling overwhelmed get yourself a babysitter for a few hours and go home and sleep. Rested Parents are Happy Parents.

There is a great book out there called Our Babies, Ourselves that talks a LOT about differernt sleeping arrangements and their physiological affects on babies.

It's called: Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent and it's by Meredith Small.

Answer 4

The most important step is to establish a "going-to-bed" ritual. This ritual helps the baby relax and get ready to go to sleep. Keep the routine simple and be consistent. A routine may be a bath, diapering, nursing, singing, and into the crib.

If the baby is fussy, try using your voice to calm him or her down. If the baby is fussy, try patting him or her on the back. If that does not work, pick the baby up, soothe him or her for a few minutes, and then put him or her back down. This may have to be repeated several times before the baby is ready to sleep.

The sleep routine is effective, but may be hard for the first few nights One of the parents may want to sleep in the baby's room for a few nights to reassure the baby when he or she wakes up. The essence of the training is to reassure your baby that you are there to comfort him or her, but that he or she must fall asleep in the crib.

Keeping the baby awake and active for 20 minutes after each feeding by providing visual and physical stimulation.

Establishing different locations for daytime sleep and nighttime sleep. For instance, if the baby is used to napping in a bassinet or playpen, try using the crib for nighttime sleep.

Giving the baby lots of rocking, cuddling, and singing. Studies have shown that babies who are carried around during the day are less likely to have colic and be fussy.

A baby needs to learn how to go to sleep in a crib so that he or she can go back to sleep alone in the middle of the night If your baby is used to falling asleep in your arms at bedtime, then he or she will need you in the middle of the night also

Answer 5

I have to say...if this child is sleeping from 8 at night until 8 in the morning waking only once to eat ...and i presume going right back to bed? you do not have any sleeping problems!!
What do you expect from this small baby? organized naps benefit YOU ...not her...why should she comply? i would suggest putting her in the family bed for a nap....leave a shirt that you have worn near her or under her...smell is pretty powerful at this age! if you need to put her down so you can get some housework done, you will have to find ways around that ...like put baby in a bouncy seat and take her with you as move from room to room...sing to her, play music, whatever...watching you do dishes will most likely by wildly entertaining for her....as she gets older and learns to sit up and play and occupy herself....you will be able to do more...you cant expect perfection even from a perfect baby.

Answer 6

Maybe it is too early... why not sleep with her for another 2 weeks and then try again?
Also she might be hungry sometimes their eating pattern change especially around 3 months that could be a growth spur.
I slept with my baby the first 3 months and then moved to a bed in the same room and it went fine in a few days...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I had the same problem with my son at 2/3 months... he would sleep for like 30 minutes at the most and then we would be up all night trying to get him to go back to sleep... but he grew out of it...i don't think that it is too early to move her i just think whats going on is that you are her "security blanket" and when she doesn't feel you there she freeks out...i think that she will grow out of it when she starts sleeping though the night...and i know its a hard thing to deal with when you are as tired as you are.

Answer 9

Move her now because she is already getting used to you being by her 24/7...not to sound harsh! She needs to be able to learn how to pacify herself when mommy is not directly next to her! Make sure though when you move her, let her cry for 5 minutes everytime before you go into her room or within the next couple months she will know all she has to do is yell a little to get you and it will become a game!

Answer 10

You are going to have to go the tough love route if you want her in her own bed. She knows that you will keep coming in every time she cries, ad will eventually take her back to her own bed. You need to let her cry it out in 10 min intervals...then go in and keep giving her her pacifier. Its going to be hard at first...but you know she is dry and has been fed. My son started sleeping in his own bed at 1-1/2 weeks old and at 2-1/2 weeks old was sleeping through the night.